I see - initially in reading through I thought this was advice to someone who'd already gotten their kids back but was looking to pursue action against those who had traumatized them.

I agree: going in with guns blazing when you don't have your kids safe in your hands would more than likely blow the entire thing up in your face.

It's the same reason I would never go to jail for parenting decisions if I could help it - meaning, I wouldn't "stand on my rights" while my kids are in danger because my first and greatest concern is maintaining my protection of them, which is impossible from jail.