very brave post @charisma777 <3 My mother had a similar life pattern it seems. My sisters and I were lucky enough that she just left us with our grandmother when I was 5 and we missed witnessing those fights and flights that ate up her life. It's sad really - I feel bad for my mother, she is still doing the same thing to this day..
they do make us who we are though :) I know I'd never make her mistakes and I guess that has saved me from repeating the cycle as so many do. Congrats to you for breaking the cycle too <3 <3 so much respect to you for putting your story out there for everyone to read and learn from
i am still breaking cycles for sure. It takes time to come to terms with the pain you can cause to another person just by doing what you think is best at least that's what I think my mother was trying todo all those years. I watched a lot growing up and even had the same behaviours as she had, but every day I realize I can make the changes, it is up to no one else but me! I just wrote another I am trying my best to be transparent about what I have done and who I have been, I hope that by doing so someone will maybe see the words and learn they are capable of doing something about the situation they are in. Now of course as children we are quite helpless to that. but bringing it into your adult life can and will damage a lot on the way if it isn't discussed no matter what it is.
you're amazing :) and really right on the money -bringing this kind of trauma or state or whatever into your adult life can seriously damage your life, it needs to be addressed and discussed and I do think, as adults if we start talking about this stuff we realize others have had the same struggles and we can help each other heal and help others who are just starting the healing process or maybe scared to start :) thanks again for sharing!
This is exactly why I put it all out there, I needed to for myself and hey if someone reads it and can relate I would like to think that what I have went through has helped me to accept the things I can not change, and to try and make amends with others which as I described above, I am a stubborn person or have been anyway and it takes time. I eventually come around and get unstuck. Thank you for reading!!
You're welcome <3