This is one of the most important thing which these days is getting lost in the contemporary lifestyles...
Table Talks are nothing but at the end of the day when everyone in the family almost winds up for the day and gathers up for dinner, so here it depends now what type of quality time do you want to spend. As a family this is one time when everyone can be together if not everyday then for a minimum of 4 days in a week or every alternate day and have conversation with each other. Specially when Children grow up or hectic work schedules then it becomes difficult, but if you set this culture for your children and for yourself right from the beginning then it sets as a discipline and everyone enjoys it. Other thing is, it should not be a compulsion, everyone should gather up with ease and comfort.
How can you make best use of this time?
It is best that in this time all the gadgets, books and any hook ups are away and the focus is only on the people gathered at the table.
This is the time when everyone can share their experience of the day. Specially when you have small children this time is the best time to connect the dots. Children function like tribe, Parents need to ask the right questions at the table to get the apt answer and insight towards their child's life in their absence, parents should be observant about the child's behavior at the dinner table.
If you find anything strange in the child's behavior then it means your attention is required more in your child's life as to what is happening in their friends circle or at the school or any other place that they are regular. In such cases open ended questions don't work, the parent needs to understand the body language of the child and pick up queues from there which might uncover something for you.
Table Talks are not only for Parents and Children, it is important for all the family members. It will make you realize that some of your family member may be needing your support more on a particular day. The time spent here will bond the family and bring people closer to each other.
Table talks can teach you a lot of things at a social level also. as you take out time to understand the people in your family from the way they talk, they speak, they eat in the same manner you will be able to understand people around at your workplace, in your friend circle. You will be able to pick up on what people are not saying and not only that it is just as important as what they do say and listening is always more valuable than talking.
As the saying goes........
"Family that Eats together, Stays together"
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Very thought provoking post. These things are getting scared due to todays artificial life
Thank you for echoing my thoughts, yes the current lifestyle of people is neglecting so many things which in turn takes people away from each other
agreed ... in our life these things are getting scared due to todays artificial life
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The jews have something which named "Shabat" on saturday.
on this days we only sit in the table and talk with the family
we don't have phones even can not turn on and off the light!
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just being with the family...
Wow, thats an amazing practice. You just put off
everything aside and spend some precious moments with your loved ones.
When the family comes together for a meal, there is fun joy and laughter beyond words.
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This is very important. As a teacher I see many children who are obviously neglected. Neglect in modern times is usually accompanied by giving children whatever they want. Parents usually soothe their own guilty feelings for not being involved, by buying gifts (phones, games, etc.) and justify their gifting as a means to fill the void.
It is important to remember that people (parents) do work long hours, or away from home. Family-life is threatened by modernization.
Also, if you really want to make good use of the time you have with loved ones, ask interesting questions. Instead of asking: "how was your day", rather ask something in the line of "so what was the best thing that happened to you today", or "what was the worst part of your day", etc.
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You are so much to the point my dear. Yes these days even on dinner table parents are with their gadgets and neglecting their children. The children are trying to get their attention but the parents are in their own joy world and then to compensate they buy expensive gifts. Its a very sad situation.
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Great post, a lot of very good common sense displayed here in your article once again @nainaztengra! I was very lucky growing up my family did this daily, for supper, we all were home and had a meal together. It serves as a combination of a lot of things: like an accountability meeting had in sales all of the time, a chance to keep up on everyone's activity, a chance to discuss progress in areas. When I think about it now, it was just assumed you were going to be there at dinner time. When I would call my mother and ask if I can go somewhere, the answer always ended in "we're having dinner at 6." Found the article on the steemfollower platform. UPVOTE
You have been lucky my friend. When I was young we had difficult situations in our family and i never got the privilege of a meal with my parents together, but now with my son I make it a point that these little things are always done. To the outside of it may look very insignificant but someone who has missed this in life will know the importance of it.
I am sorry to hear that, but it so great you are able to do that and realize its importance. Not to put a damper on it, but as I got older and into my 14-18 year old years that activity pretty much halted, as we were all coming and going so much it was just easier to eat in front of the TV whenever those of us were there. Immediately after my high school graduation (I am the oldest of four) my parents wound up getting divorced. Yes I look back now and realize how sacred a "non-important" event at the time was for each us. That is very cool you understand this importance and I congratulate you for creating such a great base for your son.
Very well said lovely... well i never had such experience because back home, we used to have diner each at different time, we could have diner together only on occasions... and i know thats sad :(
Thank you dear. When I was young I never had the privilege but now thankfully we do follow
I am so sad to say this but I have never had a Table Talk with my Parents.
I do have long chats with them but never at the Dinner Table.
atleast you still have time to chat with your parents... unlike those who never had conversation with their parents specially...
Ohhhh may be you can start doing tbat now, its never too late for anything.
NICE POST MY DEAR
Thank you :-)
In my family, table talks last forever!!!... especially on Sundays, where the whole family get together to have lunch.... and we are a big Mexican family, a lot to say and a lot to catch up hehe.
This is important for more than just children. Our entire society needs this. I live on a property with three other couples. We have meals together so that we can all check in, stay connected, support each other, and keep our community bonds strong. Of course, no technology comes to these meals. Having a community of people is very important for overall health.
That's a wonderful practice, I wish more and more people can think in these lines. A little time cut off from everything and spending it with people around you makes a lot of difference.
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This is so true!! We make sure to have dinner at the table almost every night. On the weekends we will have a movie night and we will eat together in the living room, but that's only one time per week. All other times we are at the table. My husband and I both take the time to talk with each other and our son about everything that has gone on during our day.
Wow thats a very good practice. I am sure you guys have an amazing bonding. Wish you all the very best my dear
Wow this is just perfect, If we can at least 4 times a week have family table talks, the bond in the family would increase and get stronger and our children would get used to it and would practice it with their family too which would help to build better and stronger families.
Very true, our children will live their lives from the examples we set for them. If we have given them a good base, it will help them in building up their family values
That is right
We always ate at the table as a family, discussing the day and everyone was encouraged to partake
Nice sharing.
Such a wonderful post
Thank you
Excellent post!! It's important for us to remind the importance of having a normal conversation without smartphones or devices intervention. We mustn't lose traditions like this.
indeed family is everything for us, good luck always @nainaztengra
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Your post totally amazing and you are great work do dear . Thanks for sharing
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Thank you very much for your kind words
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Good work dear keep it up I upvote you thanks
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True that! A family that Eats together, stays together :)
Also, which part of India are you from?
I am from Mumbai my dear, but recently I have shifted to Muscat. Thank you for connecting
Thank you
you just made me cry i just lost my best friend and a cousin .. this reveals the secret of any happy family .. followed you, looking for your more posts neighbour :) please follow back and upvote aswell
Ohhh my dear, take it easy. I know its very difficult but this too shall pass
I only realized that after 2 of my sisters were taken into custody and I heard how big problems my family members really have.
Now I may want to sit in the table and talk about things but I can't. Half of my family is missing and I am also moving away soon...
Its sad to know about your family. I wish that you have good times in future with your family my dear
Dinner time is when I get to catch up with my wife. We talk about how each other's day went. No phones allowed on the table. really helps :)
That's a very good practice Hardik. Now my son is in Mumbai and I miss him a lot but when we are all together we make it a point to have our meals together
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Hi @nainaztengra. @marizam said: "Excellent work, I hope everyone read this kind of posts, they're positive and help improve families.
I agree with her, this reflections makes us think about the importance of talking about our lives and staying together as a family. Greetings from Colombia.
Thank you so much for your precious words. Its so nice to see loving families where people are closely knitted to each other. Love from Muscat
To add to all u said,parents should also use this time to ask how d kids day went n also if dey had issues today dey could help solve
Very true, parents need to take very good interest in their children
Talking to the family in the table with food makes the children more comfortable and helps open them self and express how they feel
Thats very bang on. And then there is fun and laughter which is tbe best part
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I think the family table is the most intense place to meet and talk to the nearest person. As if all the annoying things like gadgets should pause for a moment in the family table.
The most appropriate location builds chemistry between parents and children as well as husband and wife. While eating the most favorite meal on the dining table.
You are so very right. The gadgets are the biggest culprits at the dinner table.
Amazing post and thanks for sharing
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Table talks are extremely important and were an important part of my childhood. Now that I am a mother, I make sure to have these with my son too.
I guess only when we become parents we understand the importance of it. Its a cycle which keeps going from one generation to other provided it has been inculcated in every generation. Thank you my dear
I love this post. I am so thankful that my parents made family dinner with no distractions a necessity. When we were younger, it was hard, we bickered alot. But now that my sisters and I have grown older, we are such a tight knit family. For Christmas we survived a 9 hour car trip with all 5 of us in a Tacoma!!
I work in a restaurant, and so often I see families come in and the kids have headphones on watching Netflix, parents also on their phones. NO ONE TALKING. WHAT??? Why even go out together? If I wasn't their server I would slap em around a lil, like "AYE, communicate with your beautiful family!! Many people don't have that opportunity. LOOKALIVE!!" (Slaps guest)
You are so right, what a waste of precious moments. Its so common these days, people go out together but mentally they are not with each other, everyone is in their own space.
Hahaha and I like your intent of slapping them, even I would want to do the same ;-)
This is a fantastic post! It's too true how we need that time at the table to truly reconnect as a family. <3
Yes specially in today's culture we actually have to remove time to spend with each other. It is a task but when done then everyone should be into it without any distractions
Hi @nainaztengra this post remind me of my family that we used to sit on our dinner table and start staring at our gadget but as my dad realize that spending time is much more important than playing our gadget we practice this habit by spending 6 weeks a time by not staring at our gadget and spend time among each other..ya so this is my story and great pose hope to see more of your post
Your dad has done a super awesome thing by getting you off the gadgets at the dinner table. it is important, when you have your family you will realize the importance of this very small thing
We make it a point to talk about our day at the dinner table. My son Luke who is six does eeny miney moe to decide who talks about their day first.
It is a great moment for the family. It is also a good learning experience for Luke to hear stories of us at work and think that work is normal and good.
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That's so cute of your son, I am sure he must be an adorable child and for sure the moments you all spend together are wonderful. You are giving such good values to your child, I wish every parent can do that.
Here in Africa, Nigeria to be precise, I think it's the next generation that will really understand the importance of family table talks. Most families do not have a unified daily schedule,which results in each member just doing his thing and catching up with family whenever and wherever the chance presents itself.
That's sad, its not that having dinner together is everything, but once a day when the family comes together and shares their day it brings closeness and bonding towards each other. We all need someone to talk to and listen to and who better then the family.
Family table talk time is so important. Our lives are so busy now that we often only have a couple of hours a day when we are together to share what is happening in our lives. Whatever time we have each day should be cherished.
So true, we have such little time for each other these days in the family and it is so important to cherish these moments with each other and create wonderful memories.
I LOVE this post!! My kids are 19 and 22 now and living on their own, but almost every night when they were growing up, we sat down to dinner, no cell phones allowed, and ate and talked! So simple. My husband (ex now!) did not see the value in this and often ate in front of the tv. My boys and I now have a great relationship, the younger one calls me every day or every other day and the older one once or twice a week. Our relationship is built on years of conversation, trust, and love. Unfortunately, they have more of an 'acquaintance-like' relationship with their father. In this age of instant messaging and texting, taking the time to not only have dinner together, but also conversation is a must! Cheers!
Wow, I must say you have been a fabulous mother with your boys. This so much proves that when our children are young it so much matters what type of time we spend with them. If it is a good quality time it make so much difference in their whole outlook towards the parents and even for other people. Parents are responsible for all the values that the child has. Thank you so much my dear for sharing your story :-)
Thank you so much; as a mom, it's always great to hear you've done a good job. We live in a world where unfortunately, parenting isn't considered a worthwhile occupation! Cheers!
YES! Thank you, this is so important!! I have one really rule in my home, and it's around the eating table - no phones (it would also be no tv but we don't own one ;)!) I'm a strong believer of table talk!! blessings
That's a great practice my dear, you are giving the very right values to the people in your home :-)
This is so true! family that takes the time to sit down together and eat and talk will stay together.
My family always did this when I grew up, that has made our strong bound to last. Just as family vaccination one week every summer also a gold thing. I might have thought at the time that I rather was with friends or what ever.. Lol
But today I'm so grateful for that.
Thank you for sharing this. Family is life 🤗💕
We only realize the importance of these things when we grow up which seemed so insignificant then. I am glad you have a strong bonding with your family. God bless you all :-)
Yes you are so right my friend, as we grow up we understand the importance of family bound and the little things in life 🤗
God bless you too!
I really agree with that!! Well technology has taken this but the real happiness and pleasure is when all are together and when we all family together share our thoughts !!
We spend one hour also with our loved ones it is so refreshing then anything else in the world :-)
Yupp In my family we do that!!!Everyday !!its the best time !!
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This is true and it really saddens me. This may no longer be practiced in the next generation because of technology and some other factors. :) Nice blog!
Yes my dear, I only hope that the generation do follow some good family practices and rather then making the next generation gadget freak they are able to make them family freaks :-)
You are so right! Also love the quote >"Family that Eats together, Stays together"
keep up the great work @nainaztengra
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