Married is not solely a sexual affair, but marriage can not be released from sexual needs. Husbands and wives who are not fulfilled their sexual needs by a partner, will cause discomfort in him. Can cause an emotional atmosphere, grumpy, sensitive, headache, dizziness, and various other physical or psychological disorders. For that, husbands and wives must work together to meet the needs and sexual satisfaction.
Sexual intercourse is an example of an activity that becomes lawful after marriage. Before the marriage contract, sexual intercourse is a forbidden activity. Islam sees, the sexual relationship between husband and wife is a worship that will bear fruit reward. Even declared by the Prophet as a sadaqah. From Abu Dhar, the Prophet Saw said:
"And the relationship between you is alms." The Companions asked, "O Messenger of Allah, how can come to the wife with lust (disetubuhi) can be worth the reward?" He said, "What do you think if anyone puts the lust on the haram (adultery) is not worth sin?" Then it is appropriate to lay the lust on the lawful to bring rewards. " (HR Muslim No. 1006).
Benefits of Sexual Relations with Couples
Imam An Nawawi rahimahullah explained that the intercourse conducted by the couple, gave a lot of profits both world and the hereafter. In the Hereafter will get reward from Allah, while in the world get various benefits, including physical and mental health. Imam Nawawi explains:
"Know that the lust of jima '(the lawful) is the lust which is favored by the prophets and the righteous people, they say thus because there are various religious and world mashalats in the form of subjugating the view, reducing the lust of adultery and obtaining offspring, whereby it becomes perfect building the world and increasing the number of Muslims, they also say that all lust can be hardened if done except this lust, because it can soften the heart. " See: Syarh Al-Arbain An-Nawawiyah.
A salaf scholar says, "When I am locked up on a problem, I call my wife to get in touch When I finish, then I take the paper and I pour knowledge on it (start writing)", because jima 'can cleanse the mind and strengthen understanding. "See: Quwwatul Qulub by Abu Talib Al-Makkiy.
Imam Al Ghazali in Ihya 'Ulum al-Din quotes al-Junaid's statement, "I need jima' as I need food, the essence of which is body intake and the cause of cleanliness of the heart, therefore the Messenger of Allah enjoins every man who sees a woman and then eats, then he should interfere with his wife. "
The Prophet sallallahu 'alayhi wa salam said, "If a man marries, he has completed half his religion, therefore fear Allah on the other half." HR. Al Baihaqi in Syu'abul Iman.
Dishahihkan by Shaykh Al Albani in As Silsilah Ash Shahihah no. 625. Imam Al Qurthubi explains the meaning of this hadith, that marriage will protect people from adultery. While maintaining the honor of adultery including one who gets assurances from the Messenger of Allah with heaven. He said, 'Whoever is protected from God from two dangers, then Allah will put him in Paradise, that is protected from the bad impact of his oral and his nakedness.'
Health Benefits of Sexual Relations
Apparently, the sexual relationship between husband and wife is not only worth the worship and will bear fruit reward, but there is very much health benefits of this one activity. Medical News Today launches, that sex has a very wide health benefits, so that will improve the quality of human life. There are so many health benefits that can be obtained from sex, among them are:
Strengthen the immune system in the body
According to researchers from the University of Wilkes, Pennsylvania, having sex once or three times a week can increase body endurance levels by 30 percent. Apparently, sexual activity triggers the emergence of antibodies that are needed in the body's immune system.
Improve heart health
Diligent sexual intercourse with couples adds to the heart rate rhythmically. Researchers in Massachusetts said men at age 50 who have sex at least twice a week will reduce their risk of heart disease by 45 percent.
Lowering blood pressure
Intercourse is done with terartur can lower blood pressure, so that blood pressure becomes stable. Research conducted by the University of Michigan to get women aged between 57 to 85 years who are still active in sex may not be exposed to high blood pressure.
Improve sleep quality
Having sex involves a series of chemicals in the brain including oxytocin and prolactin. The combination of these two substances can help people more relaxed so that people get faster to sleep soundly.
Reduce stress
Researchers at Unisco Paisley, Scotland found that people who diligently have sex can lower blood pressure, especially for people who will interact in public than those who do not have sex within two weeks. This is because the release of oxytocin during sex can have a calming effect on the body so that it can reduce the burden of stress or stress.
Sharpen the memory
Diligent sex with a partner can improve memory, especially in women. Researchers at McGill University in Canada find women who are diligent in having sex have the ability to remember better words. Sex stimulates neurological development in the brain that involves learning and memory. The nerves send messages to other cells in the nervous system.
Increase life expectancy
Research at the University of Bristol and Belfast found out that the risk of death in men can be reduced by regular sexual intercourse. The study tracked about 1,000 men aged 45 to 59 years for 10 years. Found, men who are sexually active have a longer life than those who are not diligent to do so. This indicates the life expectancy of those who rutim had sex increased.
Strengthens confidence
Routine sex can also promote mental and mental health. According to a study at Cornell University, New York, people who often have sex reported to have a higher confidence than those who are not diligent to do so.
It turns out very much health benefits that can be obtained by couples who regularly perform sexual relationships. It should be celebrated and enjoyed with all the gratitude.
Obligation to Meet Couples Sexual Desires
With the many benefits of sexual activity, it is appropriate for husbands and wives to meet each other's needs and sexual desires. Not only fulfill obligations, but should be sexual activity can be enjoyed and celebrated by husband and wife. This activity is very distinguish between marriage bonds with all kinds of ties and other human relationships. Only marriages allow and legalize sexual relationships.
However there is a very significant difference between the sexual nature of men and women. Dave Meurer in the book "If You Want Breakfast Bed, Sleep In Kitchen" explains the difference between the two.
Dave describes the sexual nature of men as an explosive "gas refinery", while the sexual nature of women tends to be like a "slow fuse" that reacts slowly.It is very easy to arouse sexual excitement, simply by looking or feeling. which is more intimate to be able to arouse sexual desire.
If a husband is selfish, only concerned with his own needs and satisfaction, he can get it in a short time. That is the very explosive gas refinery.
By the time men reach the climax of sexual satisfaction, women just crawl slowly and reach halfway to the top. Has not reached the climax yet. It may even never reach a climax, if it does not get specific treatment. This is a slow fuse that can not react lightning in sexual matters.
For this reason, husband and wife need to understand the art of satisfying the couple. Do not just have sexual intercourse to get their own satisfaction, but must seek peak satisfaction together.
Both should enjoy and celebrate. If only a satisfied husband, while the wife never gets the ultimate satisfaction, what happens is the pain and laziness to do. Convenient communication between husband and wife is needed to set the rhythm of the journey to the top of satisfaction, in order to help each other and mutual conditioning so that both go hand in hand and achieve mutual satisfaction.
Because a man has explosive sexual nature like a gas refinery, then when he has a need or desire, it must be immediately channeled. Tend not to be postponed. For this reason the Prophet Saw leads the wives to be willing to serve the husband in this one matter. If the lust of a man is not immediately channeled, can harm himself. For this reason the Prophet directs the agariap wives to serve husbands in sexual relationships.
The Prophet Saw said, "When the husband took his wife to his bed and the wife was reluctant so the husband was angry at night, the angel cursed his wife until dawn." Hadith History Bukhari 11/14.
In another hadith the Prophet Saw said, "When a man takes his wife to his bed, then the wife does not come to him, until he lodges in anger with him, the angel cursed him until morning." Hadits Bukhari history number 3237, 5193 and Muslim history number 1436.
In another hadith, the Prophet Saw said, "When a husband invites his wife to gather, she should come to him even if he is in the kitchen." Hadith History Tirmidhi 4/387; judged by Al-Albani shahih in Shahih At-Targhib: 2/199.
Shaykh al-Munawi explains, "This hadeeth gives a guide for the wife to help and seek her husband's pleasure, for a man is more difficult to hold lust for sex than a woman.In addition, one of the most disturbing cases of a man's mind is the desire to have sex , that's why women are encouraged to help husbands in solving their lusts so that the husband can concentrate in worship ".
The gas refinery does require immediate distribution, so the wives should ask for the husband's willingness to perform the sunnah fasting. The Prophet Saw said, "It is not lawful for a woman to fast (sunnah) while her husband is at home, except with his permission." Hadith History Bukhari 16/199.
Of course, husbands should not deliberately make the wife get threats in the various hadiths above. Don't make the hadith a threat to your wife.
Instead husbands should help and condition their wives to be happy to serve their husbands, so there is no compulsion or just fulfilling obligations. If the husband is good at satisfying his wife in sexual matters, the wife will feel pleasure every time doing. But if the husband is not good at satisfying the wife, then make the wife is not excited and not happy to have intercourse.
So important for couples to help each other and condition the couple in order to feel the pleasure and satisfaction optimally in terms of sexual. A worthy activity of worship, rewarding both, as well as nourishing the inner and outer. Do not fail to enjoy it.