Wise Words Help Build Community

Ephesians 4:29

If you want to create change in your home, marriage, school, work, or relationships, the way you talk to others will make all the difference in the world.

When Nehemiah left his position as cupbearer to King Artaxerxes and traveled to Jerusalem to rebuild its walls, he knew he needed to identify with the people there.

If he was going to get them on board with his plans, he needed to talk like an insider, not an outsider.

Nehemiah 2:17

Notice Nehemiah said “us,” not “I.” He said “we,” not “me.”

What was he doing with his words?

He was building community.

He didn’t point fingers and say, “I’m here to save the day and fix everything for you because you guys don’t even seem to care that you’re living in a heap of rubble.”

No, he said, “This is our problem.

And, together, I know that we can succeed because God is with us.”

When great leaders have a dream, they build a team.

That’s what leadership is all about.

Great leaders don’t show up and start blaming people.

They accept part of the responsibility.

At times in your life, you’ll see a problem and have to choose between fixing the blame or fixing the problem.

Anytime you blame others, you lower their motivation.

Anytime you focus on a solution instead, you increase the motivation.

Ephesians 4:29

Great things happen when you unite people with your words and offer to help them succeed in something they’ve always wanted to accomplish—together.

Talk It Over

What is a daily interaction you have that would greatly benefit from using more “us” and “we” language?

When has God used “teamwork,” whether at your work, school, community, or home, to make a dream become reality?

Read Psalm 3:3.

What kind of encouragement can this verse give you when someone uses words meant to drag you down instead of lift you up as you’re trying to build a team to accomplish a dream?