Hello beautiful people of the Steemian family. It's your girl Zizy and guess what? It is Saturday again and your favourite show, "Saturday night with Zizy" is here again with mouth watering contents to make your night an enjoyable one. Last week's show was amazing with beautiful comments and long Epistles that can make a post on steemit laughs. I wish I can curate all the comments because they are well thought out and the advices given are just full of wisdom. It breaks my heart that I can't give them the much deserved upvotes but I'm a believer that soon something great will happen.
Last week on "Saturday night with Zizy", we talked about the age old argument, "men or women, who enjoys sex the most"? If you missed it not to worry, just click here to read away and catch up on all the juicy details. Now let's get today's show started. Rubs hands together I am so excited.
DJ play the music in jenifa's voice LOL
RELATIONSHIP TALK WITH ZIZY
During the course of the week I stumbled on a beautiful post on low self esteem. Low self esteem affects people more than you think. People with low self esteem are troubled so much about what people think about them. They lack confidence and are more worried about pleasing others and so are ready to apologize even for being themselves. I am not saying that saying "I am sorry" is bad, no. All I am saying is do not apologize for being you, for making mistakes, for pursing your dreams. This is your life and you only get to live it once. Why apologize for decisions you made? Let's take a look at some things we should never apologize for and most often than not we find ourselves doing so.
THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER APOLOGIZE FOR
Loving someone: To love or not to love is a choice. It is not your fault when the love is not returned. This does not mean you are unlovable of unworthy of love. You chose to be vulnerable and self sacrificing, they chose to be myopic and miss out on the wonderful experience they could have had having you.
Saying No: Most times we find it difficult to say no to demands, questions or comments because we do not want to appear rude, mean or anti-social and we want people to like us. Who says they will like you less when you say NO? You do not have to say yes to ANYTHING if you feel the right response is NO.
Following your Dreams: Do not be embarrassed by your failures. Learn from them and start again. Follow your dreams and pursue it until you achieve it. It doesn't matter if people see any sense in it or not. Do not apologize for following your dreams instead prove to people that you made the right call.
Taking "me" time: Find time for yourself. Find your happiness. Take care of yourself. Spoil yourself. Do things that make you happy. Stop pleasing others thinking you are irreplaceable and displeasing yourself. Stop overworking yourself. If you break down, another is by the doorstep waiting to take your place.
Your Priorities: Whatever is important to you should be taken care of. The people who matter will respect your choice. You are in charge of your success and well-being. Many people in your life think they know what is best for you. Dont let the opinions of others make you feel guilty or confused.
Ending a toxic relationship: The hardest part of walking away from someone is the part where you realize that no matter how slow you walk, they will never run after you. Being single is smarter than being in a wrong relationship.
Your imperfections: There is only one of you in the world. Your individuality and little quirks are what makes you, you. You should be proud of you. Everyone has imperfections. Embrace and never apologize for being yourself. Be comfortable in your perfect imperfection, that is the true essence of beauty.
Speaking the truth: Never apologize for being honest. No hiding the truth because sooner or later it will come out. Be pure and real and tell the truth off right the bat. Truth makes your relationship stronger.
If you are rejected, accept it. If you feel unloved, let go. If they choose someone or something over you, move on. Remember that in every no, is a yes to someone or something better.
DATING TIPS
FUN CORNER (Just for Laughs)
Ladies, get married to a guy who is older than you so by the time you are loosing your beauty, he will be loosing his eyesight. If you know, you know
DEAR ZIZY
ANONYMOUS 1
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How do I dump a cheating boy friend that lacks empathy and remorse? I have been in a relationship of 3 years with a guy who abuses me physically and emotionally, although we have not had any reason to fight for the past 2years but recently found out he is cheating on me, which he denied when I confronted him and even threatened to beat me up if I don't shut up, since then I have been very upset. I really want everything to end but I don't know how to go about it because he is somehow violent and the house he is staying belongs to me which is the main reason why I need to be careful. Please post and hide my identity. Good job you are doing @zizymena.
ANONYMOUS 2
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Dear Zizy please help me. I have a girlfriend. She is good although she has her bad sides but then who doesn't? Sometimes ago she introduced me to her younger sister and even left us together. We got talking and I loved her free spirit and how she talks. She talks so nice better than my girlfriend and that was how it started. We started calling each other often even went as far as pet names and even sexting on phone. It felt so good but lately I'm feeling guilty about the whole thing. I love the younger sister and she loves me too. Now I don't know what to do. Should I break up with my girlfriend and date the younger one?
ANONYMOUS 3
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Dear Zizy, So there is this girl that I loved, She did a lot for me and my family (in all honesty) and as a result, my parents like her. We have gone so far that both of our parents are now in sync. But over time, she started putting up some attitudes and probably maybe because she was too confident that insurance cover her, she misbehaves a lot. So I got fed up and sent her a message that we should break up which she didnt reply (even though she saw it). I took it as a yes from her end. So I moved on with my life and eventually found someone who I really love. I've envisioned a lot of my future around her. Well, maybe the supposed-ex took my message as a joke and now its looking real, she told my mum about it, mum informed dad and now like MFM, I mean serious fire. My parents say over their dead body will they accept the new girl and I have promised her I will never leave her. Please what should I do?
The stories recieved this week are so much and we cannot treat all here on Saturday night with Zizy but not to worry as there is still next week and many more weeks to come on this show.
If you love this show and want to support, your SBDs and Steem are very welcomed. Supporters so far are @eurogee, @amec and @samminator @sammest, @surfyogi. Thanks a lot guys.
I hate to leave you but leave you I must. Until next time when I come your way again, same time, same blog, more hosts, I remain
Yours truly
@zizymena.
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Owwww
Wow wow wow
Am thrilled again,amazing one.
For that saying No Please sing it to the guys,it always seem like an offense when you say no,i tire for the matter.
Hmmmm for the guy that fell in love with his gf sister, i think they should get together and tell her about it,she might not be really into the guy self
Yeah guys don't like to hear no infact they believe we mean yes when we say no....just imagine that.
You think the elder sister will take this well? If you were she what would you do?
Because that is always the case
I find it difficult to understand ladies in that aspect. Many ladies will first say NO because they don't want to look cheap. In some cases some mean it.
Wow....this is really getting interesting week after week... @zizymena you are so good at this... I admire you baby
Thank you so much dearie. Come to discord later tonight and share some advise for those in need of it meanwhile you an drop some here to for them to read.
Am sorry i missed the after party ..
It's okay dear. I hope to see you next week same time
Mr Anon 3, try to let your parents reason with you...irrespective of whatever she might have done for y’all. Stay Strong 💪🏾
Great Job @zizymena
Hmmm @trillex, do you break up with someone over a lil misunderstanding? I think not.
Please where is the guy that wants to reveal somebody's identity😒 I was really looking forward to that.
Anonymous 1- sorry to say o... But it is foolishness to remain in an abusive relationship
Anonymous 2-
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no words
Abi o, i miss the 75k guy
Azzin eh! I was really anticipating the casting
Hehehe, I didn't hear from him o and I can't force him to spill😀😀
Mehhn Anonymous 2 is in a very bad situation...it might breed bad blood between the sisters but then, letting the sister know the truth is KEY
Letting the sister know the truth and then keeping away from both of them is key @trillex. Thank you so much.
For;
Anonymous 1, the lady should simply walk out of the relationship if she's fed up and sure the girl is cheating. Regarding the arising confrontation and all, she should involve the authorities if it's gets messy
Anonymous 2: he should simply his girlfriend and see how she takes it. Don't see it going well with her though. He can only try
Anonymous 3, the question hard o. No comments.
Another interesting show with @zizymena. More power to ur elbow 💪
Nice one @emma001 but seriously I think anonymous three would love if you advise him.it is very urgent.
Ok. The question is, did he promise the old girl marriage?. If yes, i wouldn't advise the guy to leave. Him moving on to another usually doesn't end well
But rather he should sit her down and talk about her attitudes and behaviors, because that seems like the only reason he left. And since he once loved her, they should find a way to rekindle their old love instead of him moving on to another.
Now you come. Thank you so much. This is in line with what I told him.
Ever awesome in all ramifications of awesomeness! You are really doing a great job @zizymena. I must commend you for all efforts and dedication being made to ensure every episode of this show is heavenly and better than the previous ones.
Keep shinning my sis.
@eurogee of @euronation community
Thank you so much boss @euronation. I'm every learning at your feet sir😁
It's been interesting reading today. The show has given me a lot to ponder about.
My dear ANONYMOUS 1, if he's cheating and still threatens to get physical, my sister it's time to send him parking. It just shows his level of irresponsibly . First he cheats now he wants to beat you up.
My advice is to call it quits.
@zizymena good job bringing this show together. Greatee heights I pray
Thank you @korexe but there is a lil problem, he lives in her house. How does she handle that? And please talk to anonymous 2 and 3
She should send him parking. If he won't be reasonable enough to move out then I'll suggest violence should be used rob push him out.
Anonymous 2, you should not even think of building the feelings you already have for you girlfriend's younger sister. It's something you shouldn't even consider.
Anonymous 3, marrying a lady who has been of so much help may not be the only way to show gratitude. You should discuss it with her (she may not like the sound of it though) and let her know how you feel.
Promise and make sure you are there for her whenever she needs you.
In truth, staying in the relationship out of fear of been considered an ungrateful person may not benefit either of the parties involved.
Wow this is deep. Thanks a lot for pouring your heart into this
Wowwwww this is so amazing
Nice piece u shared ma'am...i would surely put ur tips on relationship into practice ones am into one...thanks for sharing..
STEEM ON..
Nice one @vickyrich stick with us and have an awesome relationship. 😉
Wow @zizymena I love this so much this is one of the show I always look out to every Saturday.
So much not to be sorry for.
The one that took me the more was the aspect of not been sorry for chasing your dreams.
Thanks and keep it rolling
Can't wait for next episode
It's always a pleasure having you here @oliverwilliams. Keep staying tuned. We promise never to disappoint. How about advising those in need of it huh?
Will sure do that when am calm kinda distracted right now
I'll be waiting!
Hahahaha
Leme go and look for a older guy😍😘
I love pushing my nose here, every saturday.
Hehehehe so you look forever Young right? Lol
Nice one
I am loving this show.
you are actually improving on each Show.
learning a lot from you. Keep it up
Thank you so much dear. Im happy you are enjoying the show.
@Zizzy you're really making our Saturday evening spectacular.
Anonymous 1: find a subtle way to kick him out. And this is to all ladies"never stay in a violent relationship"
Anonymous 2: I don't know how long you've gone with the elder sister, I suggest you talk to her first to know her feelings but if I were to be in your shoes I'll take my love somewhere else like @jeline said.
Anonymous 3: Never be ungrateful and please it feels somehow breaking up with someone by sending text after he or she has put in so much in a relationship. She didn't reply and you assumed(another wrong move), I can relate with your your parent's stance but I feel you should meet up with your girlfriend and straighten issues up with her before you get too serious with the other lady.
@blessedman939 I too believe you. Always giving great pieces of advice on tis show. I'm sure they will heed to your advice and yes, ladies should never stay in a toxic relationship.
Im glad I'm making your Saturday night fun-filled.
I don't know why I always forget it's Saturday ! Nevertheless nice article about low self esteem-am a victim,it has been my weak point though am breaking out of it gradually,I think it was an effect from my childhood programming .
Anonymous 1.From your story, it shows your boyfriend is violent and you are afraid to tell him "you are no longer interested because he may harm you" then involve an elderly person and ask him to pack out.
Benefit of involving someone
1.He may quickly accept packing out knowing someone is standing by you and may be show respect for the other person
2.He will be afraid to do you any harm when there is a witness and a supporter by your side
Anonymous 2 - what you think is love between you and the younger sister isn't really love, it's called chemistry of familiarity,and is as a result of the amount of closeness and attention you have given to her that triggers that affection. Avoid her for some days and give such amount of time and attention to your girlfriend ,the feelings will build back.
This is where your art of betrayal start. Many guys also talks better than you, yet she preferred you to them. -And finally everyone has his or her flaws , dating the younger one doesn't guarantee your happiness , you might be happy with her now but once you are together ,you may begin to find things you will be surprise about.As a girl who is ready to betray her sister, there is more story you don't know about her yet.
Anonymous 3-i don't blame your parent , every parent who is wise will reason or talk the way they did because they appreciate kindness-once-shown . First, tell your new girl about the situation ,then also talk to your ex girlfriend letting her know you appreciated everything she did and you hate how it ended and the manner it ended .Then go further to tell her why you ended it and how it will be of harm to both of you to continue. If you are able to convince her to see reasons with you,then she alone can tell you mum to give blessings to your new found relationship
Thank you
👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 I can't seem to stop clapping for you.
Wow! Where do I start from. This is beautiful. It can even make a post.
Thank you so much @shemzy for taking your time to advice each and everyone of them. You just gave anonymous 1 the beat advice on this show tonight.
You are mouthed!
I love the way you put together your notes to self!
I usually can't read this stuff but you are very different...
Love Zizy on Sat night!
Oh thank you so much @surfyogi for all your support and motivation. You are special to me.
Keep being special😉
She's such an amazing soul, I must say.
Thanks for all the support Jeff
Hmm, quite some heartbreaking stories you've got here. For the lady with a cheating, conniving bf, abeg, life no get duplicate ooo. She hardly only one life and it shouldn't be for accommodating unhappiness. Baby girl, free yourself, tell the guy to go, it is your house. And if you are afraid of what he might do, call witnesses, send an emissary to him, get angry and para, break up like you don't care. Just do anything to get your happiness back.
To the guy in love with his girl friend's sister, I would enjoin you to tread carefully. Dont go doing anything that will break two sisters heart all in the name of love. And trust me, there is something uncanny about the feelings you profess for the girl. It might be just be a fierce likeness or infatuation for her, you might just like that she is more spirited than your own babe, more fun to be with. Why not search your emotions deeply and see what you really feel for her. Then, if you are sure it is love, then you might want to look your gf in the eyes and tell her you love someone. Don't tell her it is her sister do soon do that she will not go and break your head ooo.
Our last Oga, your former babe no get point. Tell her and your family join that the number she is dialing is no longer reachable, in fact, it is switched off. Be firm and stand on your position. You are a guy, your family will come around. If na woman now, we know that talk with not finish for ground.
Abeg Zizy, make I dey go. Work plenty to do.
Yeah.....
Am right on time
Lemme read
Hehehehe and I was looking for you on WhatsApp. Nice to have you here.
Hello! I find your post valuable for the wafrica community! Thanks for the great post! @wafrica is now following you! ALWAYs follow @wafrica and use the wafrica tag!
Greetings to the relationship pro, beautiful lecture Zizy.
I love the dating tips
That your fun corner, lol
Anonymous 1: chase him out!
Anonymous 2: you sef, na child abuse you dey do o. Please fall out of love, take your love to another family.
Anonymous 3: hmmm, choose who you wanna be with. Your first girl sowed, another is harvesting. This life is a set up!
@vheobong oooooooo
75k guy nko? runs away
Hehehehe oh @jeline I love the last line "the first one sowed another is harvesting", unfortunately such is life. Thanks for the wonderful advice and for the 75k guy......erm, I no hear from am again.
Lol... My pleasure dear.
#bringbackour75kguy
!!!!! We want him o
I'm suspecting you
That??
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Yes😋
You have this guy's collection of pictures, is this your real face?
Mehn i miss 75k guy...
If I'm the ex of anon 3,i will calculate my money and collect everything i sowed...
See why it's difficult to sow with a guy? One day he will find harvester
@vheobong, hahahaha hahahaha hahahaha.
Not just money o, collect original certificates join. Let the second girl come and sow her own. Too much sense wee not kee you.
I'm coming to collect pictures, this @one-person dey intimidate me with picture response 😱
@zizymena dear i am so tired now but pls permit me to send my opinion tomorrow.
thanks dear
Okay, I'm reserving this spot for that
At times, you just want to sit and read something refreshing, this is one of those times, thanks @zizymena for this
This is the sweetest comment here to me as far as I'm concerned. Thanks a lot
@zizymena, I love ur contents keep them coming.
@ellajonnez, he sure needs Jesus in his life. Wonderful piece of advice there for anonymous 3. Thank you so much
I'll sure keep them coming. Keep in touch!
Wonderful post
Thank you
Cheating is one reason you should leave and a threat to beat you should the a big danger and warning that you should run for your life. If a guy can threaten you, it means he will beat you one day. So quit and damn what follows.
Zizy, can you expatiate on this: A man that knows of your sadness and sleeps doesn't deserve your love at all.?
Are you saying because a lady is sad, the man should punish himself by staying awake or what?
When two people are in a relationship, each person's joy, pain, sadness, celebration and what have you becomes the other person's own too. Care is Paramount. Concern shows you truly love the person. Do you sleep when your mother or father is unhappy? I'm guessing that's a no right?