A friend shared an incident where his inability to observe without judging led to a misunderstanding between him and his wife.
He requested from his wife to wash some few clothes for him. He came home to meet those clothes still unwashed. He exclaimed "Oh! why did you refuse to wash those clothes?". The wife was unhappy with such a statement and explained the reason she could not wash the clothes with pain.
Lesson: Language and our choice of words play crucial role in ensuring our peaceful coexistence.
My friend could have put it this way; "Hamdi, I can see the clothes are still unwashed, what happened?"