I love it! I'm doing it too. It's the only way towards healing. Your way of describing patriarchic effects of not being, having or accomplishing enough are making something explicit for me that I already knew. So thanks. The way I like to self care is hugging myself, like your grandmother advised. This makes me feel very safe with myself.
Glad to hear it! Ya, we must begin with loving ourselves if ANY healing can happen. Thanks for sharing a bit of your journey. Once you're safe with yourself you're so much stronger and able to be a light in the world.
Yes, it's ok to be selfishhhh as Osho says it in my post some time ago: https://steemit.com/philosophy/@clara-andriessen/what-one-thing-do-you-think-individual-people-can-do-to-make-a-positive-impact-on-humanity-ecotrain-question-of-the-week
And here is another post I did on self love. I guess we're on the same track, resteemed your one as I also think this should spread, resteem mine?: https://steemit.com/blog/@clara-andriessen/how-to-love-yourself