The biological imperatives are real, for both women desiring to be found attractive and men desiring to respond. it's an eternal dance, a poem, a song... and I don't think it will ever neatly fit into an intellectually constructed box. Me? Im happy that there is no clear answer and that a delicious tension remains. I say that as a woman who has also been violently raped, and yet who has come to accept that the myriad of signals we send out may be misheard, and that so many of our brothers are also frustrated, angry and desperately in need of intimacy and connection. Grateful for your perspectives.