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Hi everyone, it's your favorite blogger again, Rita. How is everyone doing?! Still in high spirits as the year is just starting right?! Oh well. Let's keep it that way for now.
Today I am going to be talking about relationships. Romantic relationships. This topic is often blurred by the very many ideas of what a relationship is to different people. But today I will be talking about what I personally believe a relationship to be. It is not however a fixed definition ,other opinions are welcome.
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This discussion or views as some people would like to see are based off of my personal experiences and I am in no way trying to impose this ideology on anyone.
I have come to discover that whether a relationship succeeds or fails ,depends solely on the two people involved. You can never blame anyone for a relationship that didn't work. Relationship is more about commitment, choice,understanding and trust than it is about love. Hold on,let me explain.
Over the years ,I've seen many couples who broke u,not because they fell out of love,but because they lacked in many other aspects that form the foundation of any relationship.
People get lazy or greedy that they fail to uphold the same energy which the relationship started with. For instance, you used to give her flowers and send her loving texts and pay attention to her but you suddenly got lazy and would not even care to ask her about her day or listen to her talk about what ever it is that makes her happy. You used to call him Babe and every sweet names in the world but suddenly his name changed to Mark. Problems ensue and proper communication cannot take place. Which brings me to communication as a vital foundation for a standing relationship. Knowing how to communicate in the language your partner understands is imperative. Often times,in a bid to pass out a message ,couples yell at each other completely draining the others voice in a bid to forcibly pass a message which should not be so. Communication is key,and it starts with listening. Listen more,speak responsibly and listen more,you'll find yourself being able to understand your partner more if you can just listen .
See? Everything I mentioned work hand in hand. Communicate by listening and speaking ,not yelling and that will lead to more understanding .
THE ISSUE OF TRUST
My darlings ,trust is even more important than love. Hear me out. A strong relationship requires trust. And speaking from my experience ,trust can keep you and your partner strong and the love never dies where there is trust. Again,there are many paths to a relationship, there's no one way for it to succeed.
Being able to be trusted by your partner and to trust your partner forms a far greater bond that loving without trusting.
Lack of trust can kill love. It happened to me. Be trustworthy and your relationship will stand on a solid rock.
Believing what comes out of your partner is unbelievably the best gift you can give your relationship.
I'm sure by now,I have bored you with this old topic😏. Nonetheless, it is important to know that mere loving will not keep a relationship but love and a combination of everything I have said ,will take you far enough unless you just really fall out of love with a person.
Have a lovely day, thanks for engaging❤
The following pictures are taken by photographer Gabriel Bastelli. Do check out his free stock photos using the link below each photo.
Thanks Gabriel for your amazing works.
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