Greetings, dear sweetheart Elena

As the premise of cognitive behavioral therapy says:
It is not the fact itself that brings us suffering or joy, but the way we interpret it.
In his example of the wife mentioned, it seems that she puts the feelings of sadness or joy of her in the absence or presence of the husband. This causes many things for her, as well as for her husband and marriage. For her, it will make her always dependent on someone to be happy and possibly never will be, because no one can be present in one's life all the time. For the husband, will bring much suffering, therefore, will have another burden that is not his to deal with. For the marriage, it will probably bring a lot of wear and tear because the husband will feel tired because he has to take care of several responsibilities and still have to take care of the emotional part of the wife. That one hour will totally wear the relationship.
I think a certain badness, because this removes the responsibility of the person and puts in the other. To see this in children is one thing, but as an adult, it is very damaging to stay with someone like that, because people who live together feel as if they were guilty of something they did not commit ...

Thank you for bringing this theme. I even think about making a video about my answer.

Good morning, beautiful Elena!