What's true - I'm bad about keeping up with chores. This is the core of her complaint.
What's not true - that I do it to spite her.
What's not true - that I do nothing.
What's not true - that I do it because I believe in social/political equality of the sexes rather than because I am lazy and/or forgetful.
What's true - I don't rush around to the other side of the car to open my wife's door.
What's also true - She gets out before I have a chance to. I'm usually unbuckling the kids so they can get out of the car, and so that she doesn't have to.
What's true - Early on in our relationship, a professional associate insulted Beth, one who I thought had the potential to take my career to the next level. I had to choose between a potentially life-changing career opportunity and sticking up for Beth. Being dirt poor, I tried to strike a balance, and it didn't pay off, but it wouldn't have paid off even if I'd made it. It was a mistake and I've since then I've tried to avoid making that mistake again.
What's not true - that I've never stuck up for her. I had such a big row with my mother over comments she made I didn't talk to her for half a year. That was considered selfish because I've had issues with my mum before, but never quite like that. I burned bridges with my brother right before his wedding because of what he did to her. This was also considered selfish because I've had prior beef with him. I unnecessarily burned bridges with a friend who used to be a roommate with us in solidarity with Beth who was upset that she left. This didn't count because she felt I was trying to arbitrarily prove that I'd stick up for her. All of this hasn't counted to Beth because it was deemed too selfish because I've had prior beef with them. There is currently a member on this site who is sexually harassing Beth in messages and I want to take a swing at him. She doesn't want to "rock the boat" by doing anything about it or calling him out because he is a powerful member here on Steemit. She has sternly expressed her wishes - that I do not stick up for her in this case because of what she could lose if they decided to downvote her into the dirt, and if others like him wanted to "protect one of their own." This is a similar choice I faced, and she is making the same mistake, and she doesn't want me to be chivalrous in this situation.

She has made it clear she doesn't want what she says she wants in this video. I need to mow lawns and keep up with chores (fair) and burn bridges with people I have not had prior beef with for anything I do to count. Bullshit.