Beth, I think a lot of guys nowadays have this idea that women should be perfectly capable of doing more strenuous things or less desirable things because they have this perception that women want to be equal so they just kind of in their head throw their hands up in the air, and kind of declare, "okay then be equal". That being said it has been taken too far. And I think a lot of it has to do with men being lazy. My wife and I had a similar struggle to yours where she felt I wasn't having her back on some things, but she was very vocal about it, over a long period of time, and although I may not agree with everything, I've had to make an adjustment because I love her and I value her. And in doing so I've come to realign my thoughts on chivalry. I used to be of the mindset that I didn't need to have her back because she could defend herself just fine, but in actuality it meant so much to her when I did have her back that I realized I needed to realign my perception of things. I hope your husband is receptive to this because I think it's important for him to hear what you're saying about it. I won't lie at times I thought my wife was nagging me about things like this, and maybe some of my own maturity has played a part in my perception that she needs to be treated like a lady and that it's important to her. But that only became important to me after she kept on and on about it. Hopefully this doesn't really become as big of an issue with you and your husband as it did with us, but really the only cure in my opinion is if your husband sits down and listens to what you have to say about this. Good luck.