I am sure that different people do react differently as well. While you feel that the coaching you received was helpful, for others, it might be devastating. And, we are talking also about 2 activities that have a certain amount of violence build in.
funny that your sister not getting spanked hurt more LOL But here, we could go into a whole discussion of sexism or the different conditioning of genders from early on.
Such a big topic.
And thank you for your long reply. Much appreciated.
My pleasure :)
The reason I felt hurt that my sister didn't get spanked, was because she and her best friend would constantly goad me into reacting at their doing things to me. Then when I'd chase them, they would lead me to where my mother could see me chasing after them, and they'd lie and tell her I was trying to hit them or that I had hit them, and then when my dad came home I'd get the spanking, while I'd see her sitting there, smirking.
She never really changed much as an adult either, unfortunately. I've never had the feeling that, being her younger brother, she's cared much about me, as her behavior toward me continued to be pretty bad. It's only now, when we are both much older that she's putting the feelers out occasionally, which I guess are attempts to gauge my feelings about her.
I've told her several times that I hold nothing against her, but there remains in the air an uncertain feeling between us, and I think it has to do with her recognizing her own guilt from the past.