It looks like a secret thing as you are doing it at your own but not letting others know of it. But when they come to know they are surprised. Another thing is, this way you can put a check on yourself and monitor your progress through it. It will give you courage to keep working and ultimately you will achieve your goals.

I have found another quote: Being male is a matter of birth. Being a man is a matter of age. But being a gentleman is a matter of choice.