I would like to offer my condolences for both you and your wife. I can honestly say that we never think that our parents will pass, or if we can admit to that, it won't be in our lifetime.

Every time I hear about another hoarder, I go through all of my belongings, keeping the loved and needed and passing along the others to a new home where it will be loved.

I think that writing about it like this is healthy and gives you an outlet to hear yourself think. Also, you are so spot on with taking care of the paperwork for your parents and just an FYI, I had my 35 -year-old brother die unexpectedly and so, it is in the best interest of all to have everyone have their life in order all the time.

Check your state rules on wills and estates.

Before I forget, welcome to Steemit! There are plenty of ears out here that will listen. If you want/need anything , just ask. Someone knows the answer.