How to Behave in Nepal

Nepal consists of many different ethnic groups. Each group has its own customs. Kathmandu Valley where they mix the most has a high degree of tolerance of different cultures and customs – a fact that travelers sense, and often abuse. However, the ethnic groups in other areas are quite parochial. A foreign way may cause offence. The do’s and don’ts listed here may help you to avoid those offences. But they are more flexible than they sound. Nepalese are pretty easy going, very friendly and often shy. They would rarely say anything if you make any gaffes. When in doubt, do as you see Nepalese doing. People hold their palms together as if praying and say “namaste” when they see each other as a greeting. It is one of the most attractive and addictive of Nepalese customs. It isn’t used freely or casually: think of it as “how do you do?” rather than “hello!” If you want to show great respect, namaskar is a more formal or subservient variant.

Women should not wear shorts or halter tops. Although girls in Kathmandu and Pokhara do wear shorts or short skirts, this is relatively new and you run the risk of being seen as sexually available. A sari or skirt that hangs to mid-calf level is a kind traditional cloth for women. Shoulders are usually covered. Only women with babies or small children bare their breasts. Men should always wear a shirt and long trousers in public except when rafting or cycling. Foreigners are expected to do likewise. Tight Lycra shorts should never be worn.

In Nepal, the forehead is regarded as the most sacred part of the body and it’s impolite to touch an adult Nepali’s head. The feet are the most unclean part, so don’t put yours on chairs or tables, and when sitting, don't sit with your feet pointing at someone, especially toward a monk or lama — both practices are considered insulting. Always present or accept items with both hands. Male friends will often hold hands in public, but not lovers of the opposite sex. Couples who cuddle or kiss in public will at best draw unwelcome attention. Handshaking has increased, but not all women will feel comfortable to shake a man’s hand.

Ask permission before taking photos in temples and don't wear anything made of leather into a Hindu temple. Be sure to take off your shoes before entering a temple and leave a few rupees in the donation box. Try not to touch offerings or shrines. Walk around stupas clockwise so that the outer walls are always on your right. If you encounter a stone wall covered with Tibetan inscriptions be sure to do the same. Be aware that cows are sacred in Nepal, as they are in India, and are allowed to wander about freely. As a result you'll rarely encounter beef on menus in Nepal. Don't give-in to children who ask for "just one rupee." Although a rupee is a small amount that's easy to spare, successful begging leads children dropping out of school and taking up panhandling as their trade.