An Ex-Smoker´s Confession: It Was Chic, Cool And Glamorous

in #confession8 years ago (edited)

It´s been six months that I haven´t touched a cigarette now.

To quit smoking was probably one of the most difficult challenges I´ve ever faced in my life.

It was definitely easier to start than to stop.

Juvenile Temptations

I was 16 years old when I smoked my first cigarette. 

It was as essential accessory of a photo shooting, a fashion item, something nobody worried too much about.

If I knew that this little something was supposed to have such an impact on my future wellbeing, I swear I hadn´t ever touched it. 

But we were young and innocent. 

Now we are young-at-heart but wiser :)

Smoking is probably the most unnecessary activity of all.

There was a time smoking cigarettes was supposed to be an elitist accessory. Just remember the fifties. There were no role models without tobacco: Politicians, high society members,
actors in front or behind the camera, presenters, hosts, men and women of all ages.

It was chic, glamorous, fancy, cool, sociable and recommended to practice everywhere at any time. It was.

With time comes knowledge. 

Nowadays we are quite aware of the dramatic long-term consequences smoking is able to cause. Fortunately, more and more restrictions are applied in this context: smoke ban at public places, advertisement restrictions, etc.

It´s probably one of the few areas where I absolutely appreciate regulations.

After uncountable efforts to quit, frustrating fall-backs and repeated attempts I finally managed to find a way out of the dusty cloud. 

Here I am, healthier and happier than ever. 

So: don´t. Don´t try to be chic like that. It´s not :)

Marly - 

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I quit smoking on April 1978, when you were probably not born yet.

And I agree, it was much more difficult to quit than to start.

For more than a year, I was tempted to smoke again every day, each time I was around smokers. Then, the temptation disappeared progressively.

I was born a few years later, yeah :)
You were tempted to smoke during more than one year? Wow, you must have an extraordinarily strong mind though. To me a month felt already endless.
Congratulations on your bravery and thanks for sharing your story!

Wow, congrats!!
You like to share what you did the first days and weeks whenever you wanted a cigarette so badly? I try to quite myself, but seems to fall into the trap of smoking 1 a day to make it easier and then after a couple of weeks am full on again.

Gosh it is really hard but possible. Your experience in this comment, will help others!

Thank you!
Sure. I kept myself busy. Usually the idea of smoking lasts about 30 to 60 seconds. It´s like a flash that suddenly appears but then disappears in the same way. If you overcome these flashs constantly, you can make it. The key is to find alternative activities meaning that you have to replace your habit of smoking by others. Coffee = cigarette? Waiting = cigarette? Phone call = cigarette? Break through these connections and build new ones. Coffee = cookie. Waiting = singing. Phone call = note pad. After a while (usually starting after one month) you completely forget about your old habit. That´s it :)
Best of luck!

Thank you! The theory I know, even read the book by Allen Carr. First days I have continious nagging; 1 cigarette per day helps here; but I guess I was not making myself too busy. Next attempt I'll book my first days from start to end 100% with things to do.

Yeah, do that. A good planning is everything here :) It has to be the perfect moment. But don´t wait too long either. Every day counts.
You´ll make it, I´m sure!

Why did you stop?

Sports and smoking don't like each other. I hated that fact that I needed to stop surfing after an hour since my lungs were burning. Now I can easily surf for 3 hours 😉 I liked smoking but couldn't stand the side effects. And you? Are you a smoker?

No, I don't smoke....but don't do much sport either.

Oh I couldn´t live without it. If I don´t do any sports during more than 4 days I go crazy (and my environment suffers accordingly) :D

I think quitting gets easier every time I try.

Lol, joking of course. Its an utter bastard. The one thing that keeps me off em is how one time I was standing outside my office smoking and chatting to a guy who was also smoking and he lamented how there were less and less of us standing outside smoking and I guffawed and quick-wittedly bellowed Of course they are, its a DYING art! He stared then looked a bit sick and threw his cigarette away and stomped off and I likewise stood there and stared at mine and thought hmm, that wasn't really funny just kinda true and since then I have been relatively good

Haha, yeah I know that joke well. Have told it by myself several times :D
I totally know what you mean by these silent smoker´s moments. My key experience occured at an airport. Do you know these isolated glass cases they have installed for smokers there? It was surely one of the worst moments in my life. That´s how animals in captivity might feel. There were some kids on the other side of the window staring at me while I was taking a drag on my cigarette. It was so embarrassing!
You do well being relatively good :) It´s everything but easy.

Oh those perspex boxes of smokey shame!! Yeah they are awful. I felt the same when in those.

The killer is that the marketing has the image that it is cool ingrained so heavily that you know it is bad but still feel cool when you do. Madness

Oh yeah, I can absolutely relate. I felt incredibly cool all the time, haha


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Oh that is awesome, thank you very much for your ongoing support @shadowspub. It´s highly appreciated! :)

It's not easy stopping any habit and smoking is a tough one. Hang in there.

Quitting smoking is the hardest thing I've ever done.

YES. I couldn´t agree more. It requires 1,000% mental power. Naaah let´s better say 2,000% :)

I just want you to know.

I'm reading this while I'm smoking.

Ha! So you´re not sexy at all :D
I can totally relate. I have been doing that for a while, too...

My avatar is sexy and you know it.

Since #confession is the main tag of this article... I admit it.
Your profile in the chat isn´t too bad either ;)

Me too @schattenjäger
and I don't care if I am sexy 🙀
I've done worse @surfermarly 😜
Anyways ....congratulations of staying healthy! Good for you

Congrats on quitting, it's definitely for the better of your health and those around you.

Thank you! Yes, it is.
The side effect I enjoy most is that I have MUCH more energy doing what I love most: surfing! :)

That would be a very critical activity to have some extra energy to work with! Rock on :)

Thank you :)) I will!

Quality of life is everything dear Marly @surfermarly. Beijos para você ;)

You are absolutely right. Thank you very much @jsantana! :)

congrats! :)

Mille mille grazie, molto gentile! :)

Congrats on 6 months! I have heard from others that it is insanely hard!

It´s the worst thing I´ve ever done :D Seriously.
Thank you!!!

The first time I quit was in 1994.
And then I decided I needed a bad habit so started smoking again last year. I had about 6 months of smoking and quit again - not because I wanted to but because I couldn't afford it. So cold turkey, I stopped smoking. I was miserable. Grumpy. I wanted to break shit. But, you know, I had to figure out the WHY. Turns out it was boredom which is an unacceptable excuse to me once I figured it out. There is NO REASON anyone should be bored! So, I started doing things again - walking, writing, recording. I still miss smoking. I think I always will. But it will not win. I choose me.

I can totally relate, merej99. You know what helped me a lot? Before quitting I went out with friends and smoked like one package in one night. The day after I had the worst hangover in my life. When thinking about smoking I always remember that "last night" and especially the feeling the next day. That´s how I completely lost the desire to smoke :)
Thanks for your insight!! :)

LOL
I think I'll have to call that painful psychology. :)

LOL - it was extremely painful. I´d even say a trauma :D

It took a year for that after dinner craving to lessen, two for it to go away.
Even today if I hang out with toooo many smokers I still get cravings, but not overpowering ones.
Congrats on quitting.
They say that there is heroin in the paper 'additive package', if I remember right there were congressional hearings where the crapitalusts refused to testify about what was in the paper calling it 'proprietary'.

There must be many substances in there we have no idea about. Maybe it´s better not knowing what exactly. It´s highly addictive, there is no doubt about that. Congrats on your success story! Smoking friends always wake up the small monsters inside us, I perfectly know what you mean :) It´s the moment when we need to silently remind ourselves how hard it was to come so far...

I'm 17 years out come September, I congratulate myself almost every day.
I'd hate to think what my shape would be if I hadn't quit.
I know I've had more motorcycles than I could have otherwise afforded,...

Excellent! I congratulate you, too :)
Shape is definitely my no. 1 reason to not do it anymore. People often believe I´m still in my late twenties. I plan to confuse them for some more years, haha :) Smoking wouldn´t help much here.

Lol, yeah, me too!

Every time I get on the bike, that first mile hurts, I blame it on my smoker friends, and the slight uphill incline.

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Haha, the first hour of almost everything hurts :D
Link spam? Depends on the content, hehe

Lol, I'd exercise more if it was more like laying around doing nothing,...o.0

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I didn´t know!! I also quite 16th March 2016 after 17 years smoking :) Welcome to the club and congratulations Marlen! My plan is fully recover my lungs for 7-10 years add then smoke sporadically :-)

Oh wow, 17 years is a lot. Didn´t know you were THAT old Manu :DD Haha
Thank you, and congratulations to you, too!

Congratulations on quitting. Extremely difficult as I'm well aware. The hardest part is the hand to mouth oral fixation (reward). Some exchange smoking for food to get their fix and end up a much larger size. I am glad to see you've conquered both @surfermarly ; )

Thank you! :)
I fully agree. This constant need to put something into your mouth is horrible! Then you actually have to deal with two monsters: the one that demands tobacco and the one that desires ice cream :)
I guess it was surfing that luckily prevented me from falling into that trap in the end...

Surfing saves you once again. Great choice. Surf and Steem on.

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Glad you mustered up the courage to kick the habit, Marly!

Congratulations on staying away from it for six months! Cheers for making it the rest of a year! :)

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