教育孩子还真不能简单粗暴

in #cn7 years ago (edited)

   前天晚上时,我在阳台上正在喝茶(苦荞茶,类似茶但没有茶多酚),儿子在客厅里玩耍,只见他兴奋地一个人跑来跑去,我在想可能孩子都是这样的吧,很容易就高兴和满足,这时候我听见“砰”的一声,转头看了下,原是老大自己跑到卧室里,并大力地将门从里边关上了。


   因为声音有点大,我这时候便放下杯子,走进了卧室。以前出现过这种情况,可能是因为男孩子较好动吧,我跟老大讲过做事不要太粗鲁,比如关门要小心些,但明显这次他因为玩得太兴奋给忘记了。


   听见我说他,先前兴奋的脸顿时晴转阴,显然是有点不高兴,但他也不敢发作,只是用手推了推我,我这时候有些生气,便不高兴地说他,这个举动可能更加加剧了他的不良情绪,他这时候试图举起小手,在我的身上轻轻地打了几下。


   这个动作一下子令我非常的生气。这么小就敢如此,长大了还了得?我大声地斥责他,并试图告诉他这个行为是很严重和错误的。


  老大在那里杵着,偶尔抬起头看下我,我知道他是在看我是否是真的生气了,或者是想等我脸上的表情缓过来,但这次显然令他失望了。


   一旁他奶奶目睹了整个事情的过程,还是奶奶有办法,先是用转移注意力方式,孩子就是孩子,老大的对抗情绪很快就松懈下来,很快又开心起来。


   在这个时候,他奶奶就跟他讲,问他刚才推爸爸对不对?孩子低下头,轻轻地说道
  “不对。。。”


  然后他奶奶再继续问他,“那你下次还推不推爸爸了?”
  老大轻轻地说,
  “(下次)不推了”。


  这时候奶奶便表扬了下他,老大的脸上出现了喜悦。


  他奶奶接着又说,
  “你刚才推了爸爸,你知道不对,承认错误了,也说下次不会(再犯)了,”随后又顿了顿,
  “(你)明天放学回来不能坐摇摇车了,给你个教训,好让你记住。”


  老大望了望他奶奶,又看了下一旁的我,没再吭声。


  我自己思索,看来教育孩子暴力是不解决问题的,只能让孩子情绪更加剧(变坏),得换个方式才行。


  还是他奶奶(教育孩子)有方法,给我家老太太赞一个! 

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小孩也是要面子的呀。

Good looking kiddo

一個聰明可愛的孩子,不應該訴諸暴力,因為他們的出生,他們是我們的驕傲。孩子是他的世界玩的世界...👍😁

姜还是老的辣!

哈!威武的小家伙啊!😊😊😊

😊😊😊

我终于明白大伟哥为什么那么睿智了。

我是不是得低调下啊

赞奶奶的方式一个!

When a child grows he does not know anything. A child will learn what we teach. If I write something wrong, forgive me because I do not know your language well. I'm trying to write through Google Translate.

you have tried your best to do it,thank you @subratabarua hope to see you often

給老太讚一個👍
孩子好清秀啊~

絕對要給奶奶贊一個

That's truly said :)

真是家有一老,如有一寶

没错,你说的很对,家有一老,如稳泰山。

哇!你妈妈真的是好会教孩子啊!我儿子平时也有你儿子那种类似打长辈的举动,我每次也是气急败坏的,以暴制暴,下次试试你母亲的办法。。。确实不错!

我也是觉得这方法确实不错

你妈妈真是个睿智的女人!

简单粗暴的话小朋友会害怕的 😱

我那小子不会害怕,就是没效果。。。

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Wow

我就是太简单粗暴

我也是啊

你家孩子这还算是听话的 方法很好 学习一下

Thats true what you said.

长辈对付顽皮的小孩子确实都很有一套!赞!
不过对于我来说,反正有熊孩子打我我就打回ta,恃弱凌强可不行啊,哈哈。

parenting is the greatest job ever

这个奶奶很明智!赞一个!一般的奶奶应该都是赶紧护着孩子替孩子求情或找理由的。

Your grandmother is very wise woman. And yes sometime one has to be rude and sometime soft. This is parenting phases. We should understand. But there is no space of violance in parenting / education or any other aspect of the life. Thanks for your great share @rivalhw. Keep sharing and stay blessed!
By the way kid is so cute. Give him a kiss from my side! Cheers.

Looking good there

Awesome post friend i visit your profile and all posts fully.

大伟哥儿子好可爱!小孩子很会察言观色看大人的表情,超机灵

教孩子就不能以暴制暴