i. Respect the process.
ii. Anchor your marital decision on God's plan for your life
iii. Peoples' decisions are influenced by their sense of identity.
iv. Relationship with God is more important than your relationship with men.
v. Don't honour a man more than you honour God.
That was a recap of the previous post.
We've dealt with 5 fundamental tips from the previous post. We will conclude with the rest of the tips today.
vi.
A man who isn't aware of God's plan for your life cannot appreciate your worth.
If you don't understand God's plan for the life of your spouse, you'll never appreciate the depth of what God has blessed you with. You need to keep asking God why did You give me this person as my wife/husband?
vii.
Needy people are always needy.
Relationship is for givers and not for takers. You don't get into a relationship because you are lonely. Relationship doesn't erase loneliness. There are a lot of lonely married folks.
If only one party keeps giving, a time will come the person will burn out.
viii.
The greatest hindrance to fulfilling God's plan for your life are the people closest to you.
That is why you should be careful who you marry, not just anybody.
ix.
It's between two forgivers.
Proverbs 19:11.
If you are sensible, you will control your temper. When someone wrongs you, it is a great virtue to ignore it.
Learn to forgive. No matter how perfect your spouse seem, they will do things that will annoy you.
x.
The man can obey God.
This is the safety of any relationship.
Matt.1:20.
But while he thought on these things, behold, the angel of the Lord appeared unto him in a dream, saying, Joseph, thou son of David, fear not to take unto thee Mary thy wife: for that which is conceived in her is of the Holy Ghost.
Do not do anything because of a man. Marry a man who can hear God. A man who can love you despite of "you", who does things for you not because of you but because of God.
These are the words from my pastor, Pastor Tunde-success Osideko.
Thank you for reading.