I have been taking care of children for a long time. The day I had kids was the day I thought I knew what to do with children. It was learning all over again.
I found out the ultimate test for patience is the kicking and screaming of a toddler. Going through this is not so fun. It seems so easy to do when we are at home where no one is watching. All you have to do is talk to them for a bit and if it is not resolved we can put them in their room to cry it out. Or coddle them until all of their moodiness is out of their system. It is all practice for the world when it does happen outside in public.
What I have learned and what I think people should realized is that the child is merely a reflection of yourself. They will watch how you react, interact to other people, behave outside the home. I have been watched, tested and failed. Just from a toddler tantrum. You can save yourself a whole mess of trouble and power up that muscle memory to harness your child's feelings and get a better view of how to resolve the situation.
1. Don't get mad because you child wont 'shut up'
Take them away from the problem that left them crying. The power is to look at them. This is their moment of weakness or confusion and they have a way of letting it out. You can try talking to them, getting on their level working their mind to engage into talking the situation out. Now listen these are 2-4 year old, the kids will listen. Believe it or not, they know what you are saying!
2. Still crying? Lets take a breather
Now the talking didn't work so much and you are running out of patience. You face is beginning to feel hot and frustrated. Here is what you do. Go outside count to ten. Let yourself know that this is not about you. This is about your kid who needs guidance on what is going on. No matter how big or small the situation is. You love you child to death. The only way to help her is to help yourself have that clear mind. Go back inside and see if there is some sort of distraction that can take the mind away from the problem in the first place. If not, lets move on.
3. You kid is tired or hungry
Food and tiredness can be another component to cranky tantrum baby fits. A quick warm bath would do along with a good warm meal.
Our kids are truly our own self and more. Just think, If I was to be in the child's situation how would I want to be treated. With love, compassion and understanding.
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Thank you for taking the time to read this. I hope it helps out some families.
Any thought? I would love to hear some.
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Welcome to Steemit @rissakoirtyohann. So glad to have you participating in this revolutionary platform. I love that you are writing about parenting. I believe it to be one of the most noble and important things to give our attention to.
Children are definitely a reflection of the self. I feel it is of great importance to tune into where the kids are before the tantrums begin, holding space for them to be heard and to get their needs met before they need to scream out for attention. Often more easily said than done as we ourselves were not raised being honored for the whole beings that we are, but instead to be molded and coerced into who others believe we should be.
Parenting can be way easier than we believe it to be. Our ideas of the terrible twos and horrible teenagers are ideas we perpetuate. There is no need for rebellion when we truly tune into a child and let them show us the way. It is however, often easier said than done.
Good for you for broaching the subject and helping to raise the awareness that there is another way. Glad to see you sharing yourself. <3
I've been writing a lot about children lately too. Here is one of my posts I'd like to share with you.
https://steemit.com/freedom/@everlove/imagine-the-potential-for-life-if-children-grew-up-with-true-freedom-in-a-world-of-self-design-here-is-a-real-example-of