DEALING WITH PAST DISAPPOINTMENTS

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We all have been in situations where we hope to get a helping hand in achieving our purpose; when we seem so helpless and at times hopeless. Many at times we are let down when we need just the tiniest help from people, society or Governmental systems.

I have in the past overly trusted people and was, in turn, let down by some. Since then, I have learned the difference between putting faith into people and blindly trusting them.
Do Won Chang

Sometimes we seem to need help from some people we have helped before or a system we inputted so much effort in and due to one thing or the other we are let down, at this point we tend to feel betrayed and let down. This can be heart breaking.

Betrayal is the only truth that sticks.
Arthur Miller

It is necessary to overcome past disappointments, if not the one will become hardened and cold-blooded. In overcoming the past disappointments there has to be a shift in the way we think. The following will help a great deal in handling past disappointments and avoiding future brutal let-down.

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• EXPECT LITTLE OR NOTHING FROM PEOPLE
  One of the best ways if not the best way to escape frequent disappointment in life is to expect little or nothing from people. one thing I'm very sure about in life is human can fail at anytime except if the person you are dealing with is a supper human or an Alien, but as long as you are dealing with humans; they can fail at anytime.

I don't want to say that our expectations of love are too high; it's just that if we're to meet them, we have to become a little more self-aware.
Alain de Botton

• NO ONE IS OWING HELP
  It is wise to understand that the fact that you have helped people does not mean that they have to return the gesture to you (although in ideal cases good gestures are returned but in life ideal situations are very difficult if possible to attain), if you are helping someone because you want to have the help returned then stop the help because most likely you will be disappointed. Help because you want to make life better for people.

• LEARN TO CORRECTLY PUT THINGS IN THE RIGHT PERSPECTIVE
  Learning how to put things in the right perspective might be unconventional but will make your life easier; what if the person you seem to need help from, can't help you in the real sense of it. The fact that they look like they can help doesn't mean they can help (looks can be deceptive). Bottom line try to put people's actions and inaction in the right perspective.

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• REACH DEEP DOWN INSIDE AND BRING OUT THE HELP YOU NEED
  Most times the solution to our problems lie deep down inside of us. Reach inside of you first instead of ignorantly waiting for an external help.

What will make you great is inside you,
dammieyale

I have in the past overly trusted people and was, in turn, let down by some. Since then, I have learned the difference between putting faith into people and blindly trusting them.
Do Won Chang