Dear cryptonfused,
I know your feel. Those conditions are terrible. I do not get it why the whole community cannot come together and do the right thing and decide wisely. Every intelligent person should know that the fees are too high and the transactions too slow. So this needs to be solved (bigger block size etc.; but most important: there should not happen the same thing as with bch in August; the consensus should be as homogeneous/large/consistent as possible).
If btc keeps being like that, it could get really dark for its future (and bch might overtake (btc)).
Cheers!