(I wrote this. Read the whole article at https://fuckedupandwonderful.blogspot.com/2024/10/imagine-world.html)
For now, Brendan and I are trying to get our kiddo's school to implement Dr. Ross Greene's "Collaborative and Proactive Solutions" method. It's an entirely approachable system of problem-solving with children and adolescents when they display what we consider to be challenging behaviors. It's all about building relationships and trust between children and caretakers and involving children in the problem-solving process. As we continue to advocate for Lochlan at school, we're also trying to move the dial on the overall school culture so that it treats children as whole people, worthy of trust and respect.
Here's a parting image from one my favorite Facebook parenting groups, Visible Child (also an excellent and resource rich website):
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