I understand the correlation you are drawing from but there truly is one distinction that seperates myself from the judgement I am passing. For that is the fact that at the age of 14 I realised it was a cult religion and attempted to show as many people as possible, I was ridiculed, laughed at and hated by friends and family merely for thinking differently, I was segregated from my friends and family for years and years, judged harshly and thrown out. Not invited to weddings, dinners out, or anything in fact. I had to go out into the world and make it on my own.
This is where I draw the conclusion from that none of them want out, it is the very few and very very far between that want out. But a self serving seperated sect of sad brainwashed fanatics keep each other in check, the fact that you think I am harshly judging on a group because potentially a small minority might not be as hard core as the rest is in my eyes the same argument being made by neo-marxist leftists to combat “transphobia”. A minority of a group does not determine what the majority work for.