Wow, really great support here. I can relate to this so much and have gone through this pattern of trying to 'fix' my partner over and over, always with the same end result of no actual resolution to the problem, and feeling like I had instead driven a wedge between us. Thank you for sharing your insights here, I can see the potential benefits and will remember and apply this in my own life.
Much potential really. The thing is men have different makeup and especially go through alot in their head when they can't accomplish as much as they feel they can and speaking them out of their low times a this point, tends to come of as lack of support. Infact, inspiration works better. Thank you for coming here to support @kimamourette. It is what life is about. Happy commenting!
Thanks for the feedback kimzilla! That is exactly how I felt as well, that no matter what I was saying to try and "fix" the situation, I just felt like I was driving us further and further apart. Interestingly enough, the moment I realized what I did, dropped all the emotional energy within myself and shared with my husband what I realized, not only did I feel a lot better but he also 'eased up' to me.