My first comment here on Steemit. Thank you for introducing me to this platform Jerry.In my experience focusing on your happiness and joy first is a sure way to be a happiness for others, as you radiate it. :)

It's impossible to give to others, if you are not overflowing. It's unnatural. You cannot make anyone happy - only they can make themselves happy, as they are the only ones experiencing their life as themselves. Mindgames of guilt or some societal norms are illusions, and they proved to me many times. As you radiate happiness - they can see you as an example of happiness.

It is not a selfish act, but a loving one. Love yourself first and everything will be okay - it cannot be any other way, as you will be shining like a star-example. By being happy it becomes a REAL struggle not to be good. It's natural - you don't need mind for that. Just look at the little ones. :)

Thanks for the post,
Much love.