Sorry, but it seems nothing can ever be truly decentralized. We have had organized forms of governments, whether the leaders were a few people or a single person, since the beginning of recorded history. Even If people are allowed to rule themselves, there will be certain individuals who stand above the rest, redirecting and controlling, taking charge.
applying that to bitcoin, we start to see the reasons why the governance inst truly decentralized. Individuals will certainly come together, and interests will align. Groups form, and we are back to the old form of government, albeit a semi-decentralized one.
Yes I think you may be right. It is something we aspire for but can never truly reach.
Only looking in rear view mirror. Cannot change anything or make anything better if we are not to recognize that there are solution to the current problem ... even a partial decentralize is a step forward. It already means that there can only be partial control. Better than totalitarian or monopolistic type of control.
Stop overthinking. Look forward my friend.
We need to fight, and need to fight smart.