I agree that this modern mentality that everyone is a victim isn't doing much good to the younger generation. I am of the same generation as you and I grew up with the idea that shit happens, move one, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Yet, a lot of soul searching and many sleepless nights helped me understand how much my life was influenced by childhood trauma. Not that there's anything I can do about it. What's done is done, it's not about blaming anyone. For me it was mostly about understanding myself.
Obviously, I think the world's gone crazy with so-called microaggressions and safe spaces, but understanding certain types of trauma could be useful for younger people, sparing their children unnecessary suffering.
The overweight friend I was mentioning had really shitty parents. On some level she knows that, but she cannot really accept that. In many ways she's still trying to prove she was a good daughter, even though they've been dead for years.
In my defense, I might be biased as I'm doing this psychoanalytical studies course and I've been reading various books loaded with clinical examples of childhood trauma. With time, I might be able to see the middle ground :)