I played this communication game once where two partners that know each other well sit back to back. Each one takes turns telling the other exactly how to put together a puzzle that they each have in front of them. It's frustrating. And also, each communicator gets to examine how they communicated, and what the physical feedback was of that communication. It's a two way street and no one listener interprets anything in the exact way it is meant by the communicator. What I took from it is to give everyone the benefit of the doubt. To check in ("did you mean this...") and to not jump to defense and conclusions- especially when that's the first emotion that comes up for me!
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Thanks :) Yeah. Well tonight it was my turn to pull a "jumping to conclusions and totally misinterpreting what was said" tonight. But it allowed some clearing up of some misconceptions from some old thought patterns and allowed me to make some realisation, good ones.
It makes me realise even more how sometimes it really depends how we were programmed. There are a lot of things that to me meant one thing because I was told repetitively that it meant that. Then someone else says it and means something else by it, but for me, it still means that first thing. Other times, it depends on how we're feeling in that moment and how we are judging ourselves.