Thank you, too for your appreciation.
I understand. That is really something. Pressure can be high when the roles are reserved and the comments one get's often should be spared.
As I see it it was good to have had this particular experience and you seem tolerant of it. To provide financially for one another as well as emotionally still do not have the same value. Also, in the course of life, it's problematic when a couple splits and the chain of give & take is broken. The roles can change within a lifetime several times and it is good to measure them within this wide frame.
I learnt the same you learned:)