Autumn comes - a time of melancholy and depression. To cope with the longing, psychologists advise to spend more time outdoors, exercise, come up with a new hobby, eat chocolates or, in a neglected case, antidepressants. And it is mandatory to have sex regularly. But how does sex help with depression?
Depression – what is it?
To understand why sex is effective in fighting depression, you must first understand what it is. First of all, depression is a mental disorder in which you experience decadent moods and cannot experience joy. The will to live and appetite are lost, complete indifference to everything appears, the habitual way of thinking is broken. Depression can occur at one of four conditional levels of difficulty: normal, mild, medium and severe. The onset of depression may not be noticeable because the first symptom is sadness.
Sadness is not depression, it is a common human emotion. Normally, when she caused some serious accidents, such as loss of a loved one (death or breakup), the death of a pet or even a little thing like the inability to squeeze into your favorite jeans because you've gained a few extra pounds (girls will understand). Sadness in such circumstances is a natural reaction of our psyche.
But depression is a constant sadness that changes the way you live and affects loved ones. The feeling of sadness and emptiness makes you put down your hands and step away from even the simplest everyday Affairs. At the biochemical level, depression is a brain disorder caused by an imbalance of neurotransmitters (substances that are involved in the transmission of nerve impulses), which disrupts communication between nerve cells throughout the body.
Depression and life together.
Depression is not only sadness and emptiness, but also a constant feeling of loneliness, accompanied by thoughts like: "I'm useless and no one needs me." And these obsessions are accompanied by a loss of interest in what you loved to do before. You don't even want to get up from the couch to eat. The desire to have sex also disappears, especially if after a hard day at home you are waiting for checking lessons from children, cooking dinner, washing, Ironing and cleaning – in short, another stress.
Stress is layered on depression, and then it begins to seem that the best way to get out of the daily routine is to break off the relationship, and then nothing will need to be done at all. Besides, drowsiness is one of the constant companions of depression. Who will indulge in passion, when all you want is to sleep, sleep and sleep again?
Unwillingness to have sex leads to tension between partners. Some people who are depressed just don't want to have any sexual contact. Others, on the contrary, make contact, but expose sex in a negative light and claim that they are unpleasant. Of course, from this attitude their partners feel unloved and unwanted, which only aggravates the situation.
Thus, depression can cause a breakup. However, a strong love affair on the contrary will help to find a way out of the depressed state. But how?
How does sex help with depression?
As we've seen, depression is an imbalance of neurotransmitters and hormones that affect the brain and control mood and emotions. In other words, the reasons for the lack of desire to live and have sex is on a chemical level. But at the same time sex can positively affect the biochemistry of the human body!
During lovemaking, happiness hormones – endorphins-are released into the bloodstream. They very quickly enter the brain and contribute to the emergence of neurotransmitters. In addition, endorphins produce a calming effect on the body, which gives a person a feeling of relaxation.
But how to persuade a person who is depressed to have sex? First, don't insist and be patient. Secondly, release the partner from household duties at least for the evening-do everything for him. Third, create a romantic atmosphere: light candles, make your loved one a relaxing massage. You can combine business with pleasure, instead of massage oil using an aromatic massage candle. Let over time your relaxing massage will begin to turn into erotic. And then slowly but surely get down to business…
Of course, sex is not a panacea for depression. Finally defeat depression will help only a qualified psychologist. However, sex significantly improves the well-being of a person who is depressed, and therefore psychologists advise to regularly love each other, both to relieve depression and to prevent it.
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