...because we are basically coercive thugs.
Please speak for yourself, here. In my experience this is not true, and anyway, if you do believe this, why would any government work? I mean, it's always going to be comprised of thugs. Thugs to govern thugs?
"Government is like fire, a fearful master, and a terrible servant." - Geo. Washington
"Let the people be armed." - Thos. Jefferson
I could go on, but the point is made.
I am not a coercive thug. Are you?
God, I hope not.
TBQH, the sum of human interaction is incalculable, and we prolly apply various pressures unconsciously in our intercourse. I can consider coercion to be limited to physical threats, or expand the definition to include implied threats of social unacceptability, or financial manipulations.
Viewed in that light, an honest person might find that it is not whether we are coercive, but to what degree.
I dunno, but I am deeply invested in allowing people to run their own lives, races, and mouths. Like you, I am not interested in any form of bullying, and find people that tend to the practices of confrontation and intimidation both unpleasant and, in the long run, void of most profound beneficence.
It is that latter quality I find most attractive in myself, and in people. Kindness is rivaled only by humility in how I value others, and desire to exhibit myself.
I earnestly hope your question doesn't imply I am!
Haha. Not at all. If I am not mistaken, you said it in your comment above. "We are coercive thugs."