I'm with ya, not all of us have the leisure to do the reading, nor the good fortune to be in an environment conducive to learning from outside the paradigm.
Ironically, it is the breaking of the clearly stated rules that gets me riled up.
https://theanarchistlibrary.org/library/the-anarchist-faq-editorial-collective-an-anarchist-faq-07-17
Thanks for that reference. I think it was sent to me maybe only once in all the discussions I've had on this topic regarding self-ownership, property rights, and the like. I have not read through all of it, but it's now bookmarked, and I surely will. I can appreciate how frustrating it must feel to have language and historical tradition subverted to mean something else entirely. I also see entrepreneurship, free value exchange, and the type of "capitalism" many I know appreciate might really only be possible, ethically, via the technologies which exist today such as blockchain cryptocurrency free from the nation-state. If that's true, we should start seeing more and more examples of it in reality. I look forward to reading through this more and hopefully writing on it more in the future to clarify some things for myself and those who use (and misuse) these labels in my community.
That is only one section of the faq, there are many.
Too many that call themselves anarchists have no real clue what they are talking about, nor even that this has all been hashed out 150+ years ago.
Their brashness at 'making their own' rules often leads them down non and counter productive paths creating turmoil where none would exist if they had caught up with the rest of the class.
I can only lead you to the source.
You have to decide for you what to do with the knowledge available in the time available to absorb it.