they have to want it themselves in order for it to work out
100% my only friend I've had since we were about 7.. so 23 years of friendship.. she is struggling so much in the last 5 years and currently is at the worst period I think. She just doesn't want it - I've tried so many different approaches to support her so she can stop punishing herself in that way but nothing is working.. she even had her 11yr old son taken from her about a month ago because her bf OD'd in her bathroom but he came back, this time, and she is right back running with him about to lose it all. Craziest fact is her last bf (for about 6 years I think she was with him) died from an OD almost 2 years ago. Drug addiction is truly soul crushing for everyone involved.. I'm SO happy to hear you're doing whatever is in your power to extend help and follow through with whoever is ready to change :-)
That's the shit that kills me right there....when you care about someone but they don't care about themselves anymore because the addiction has almost nearly hijacked their soul.....it is heartbreaking. You can lead a horse to water.......
I really appreciate your support with everything and honestly, if one single person listens to my story and advice or anything and it makes a difference, then this has been a success :)