Does Knowing Couples Have to Pass Through Dating?*

♻Bashing Things Denied

`'Courtship' is not a term that exists in Islamic treasures. So it is not found the argument that sounds "do not you dating" or "courtship is haram" or semisalnya. And in the earlier books of scholars there is no chapter on courtship. Then why can we say Islam forbids courtship? Because if we look at reality, it can not be denied that in courtship there are activities or things that are prohibited in Islam, namely:

📍1. Zina or approached him

Zina is clearly forbidden in Islam, Allah Ta'ala says:

ولا تقربوا الزنا إنه كان فاحشة وساء سبيلا

_ "And do not go near adultery; indeed, adultery is a cruel act. And a bad way "_ (Surah Al Isra ': 32)

💬As Sa'di states: "The prohibition of approaching adultery is harder than merely a ban on committing adultery, because the prohibition of approaching adultery also encompasses all the things which opener and trigger the occurrence of adultery" (Tafsir As Sa'di, 457).

So this verse includes jima '(sex), as well as all activities of cuddling, romance and sexual activity other than intercourse (jima') by unlawful couples.

And adultery is a great sin, adulterers who muhshan sentenced to stoning to death. Rasulullah sallallaahu'alaihi wasallam said:

لا يحل دم امرئ مسلم, يشهد النفس

"A Muslim who is not lawful is not lawfully killed, except for three kinds of people: 'Murderers, married people and adulterers, and people who leave Islam' (Narrated by Bukhari no 6378, Muslim 1676).

Indeed, not all who are dating it would be adultery, but not excessive if we say that the courts include approaching adultery, because two people are dating or dating to go to adultery just a step away.

❇And also note that there is zina maknawi, the perpetrators are not sentenced to stoning or whip but still threatened with sin because it is the introduction to the essential adultery. Rasulullah sallallaahu'alaihi wasallam said:

إن الله كتب على ابن آدم حظه من الزنا, أدرك ذلك لا محالة, فزنا العين النظر, والنفس تتمنى وتشتهي, والفرج يصدق ذلك

_ "Allah has predestined that in every child Adam has a part of the zina's actions that must happen and can not be avoided. Zinanya eye is a vision, oral zina is speech, while lust (adultery of the heart) is wishful and wishful, and penalty that justify or deny it "_ (HR Al Bukhari 6243).

💬Ibnu Bathal explains: "adultery of the eye, that sees the unworthy of more than the first sight in order to be pleasurable and with the lust, so also the oral zina is berlezat-delicious in words that are not lawful to pronounce, adultery lust ) is desirous and wishful thinking. All these are called adultery because they are the things that lead to adultery with the pubic "_ (Syarh Shahih Al Bukhari, 9/23).

📍2. In contact with the opposite sex

Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said,

لأن يطعن في رأس رجل بمخيط من حديد خير له من أن يمس امرأة لا تحل له

"He stabbed the head of a man with a stake of iron, which is better for him than touching a woman who is not lawful for him (not his mahram)" (Ar Ruyani in his Musnad, 2/227, allegedly Al Albani in Ash Sheikh Sahihah, 1/447).

This hadith clearly prohibits touching a woman who is not a mahram absolutely, either by lust or without lust.

💬Imam Nawawi said: _ "Our Ash-hab (the scholars of syafi'iyyah) said that any forbidden to be viewed then haram touched him. And sometimes allowed to see (woman ajnabiyah) but haram to touch it. Because may view ajnabiyah women in buying and selling or when want to take or give something or like him. But still not to touch them in those circumstances "_ (Al Majmu ': 4/635).

Then the activity of holding hands, embracing, caressing, women who are not mahram is haram law. These activities are generally done by dating people.

📍3. Opinions with the opposite sex

Believers and believing women are commanded by God to subdue each other's views, so if they deliberately look at each other instead of disguising the 180-degree command of God. Allah Ta'ala said,

(30) وقل للمؤمنات يغضضن من أبصارهن ويحفظن فروجهن (30)

_ "Say to the believing man:" Let mer

📍3. Opinions with the opposite sex

Believers and believing women are commanded by God to subdue each other's views, so if they deliberately look at each other instead of disguising the 180-degree command of God. Allah Ta'ala said,

(30) وقل للمؤمنات يغضضن من أبصارهن ويحفظن فروجهن (30)

_ "Say to the believing men:" Let them hold their eyes, and keep their cock; that is more holy to them, Allah is well acquainted with what they do ". Say to the believing woman: "Let them restrain their sight, and their cock." (Surat An Nur: 30-31).

The Muslim man is forbidden to see a woman who is not lawful for him intentionally, either with or without lust. If by lust or for the delicious-delicious then more forbidden again. As if by accident then it does not matter. From Jarir bin Abdullahradhiyallahu'anhu said,

سألت رسول الله -صلى الله عليه وسلم- عن نظر الفجاءة فأمرنى أن أصرف بصرى

_ "I asked the Prophet sallallaahu'alaihi wasallam about views that are not in deliberate. He commanded me to turn my eyes away "_ (HR Muslim No. 2159).

He also said in the previous hadith:

فزنا العين النظر

_ "Adultery the eye is looking at" _

As for Muslim women, forbidden to see men with lust and can look at man if without lust. Because there is a hadith in Shahihain:

أن عائشة رضي الله عنها كانت تنظر إلى الحبشة وهم يلعبون, وكان النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم يسترها عنهم

_ "Aisha Radhiallahu'anha had seen the people of Habashah playing in the mosque and the Prophet Shalallahu'alahi Wasallam spread sutrah so they do not see 'Aisha" ._ (Muttafaqun' alaih)

💬 Sheikh Abdul Aziz bin Baz said, "On women who look at men without lust and without the favors, just what is above the navel and under the thigh, this is not why. Because the Prophet sallallahu'alaihi wasallam allowed 'Aishah to see the people of Habashah. Because the women also always go to the market where there are men and women. They also pray in the mosque with the men so they can see the men. All this is legal. Except specializing in the view so that sometimes cause slander or lust or tasty, that is so forbidden "_ (Fatawa Nurun 'alad Darb

🍁But more important is to try to subdue the view as commanded in the verse. Well, when in courtship, it is almost impossible there is no lust between the two couples. And when they looked at each other, it was almost impossible to see each other without lust. Even without lust, and this is unlikely, it remains forbidden to the man and not for the woman.