people ARE allowed to use their vp in the way they please. Where did I say they couldn't???

But in the case of Haejln it is against the principle of Steem (and as we see it on the Steemit.com website) to be "milking the system" irrespective of quality.

And it is 100% okay for other people to use their VP to protest those rewards and remove tiny fractions of those rewards through the flag function.... First reason for a flag: "Disagreement on Rewards"

Have I not been friendly or civil in any part of my Post or in my actions?

If you are referring to the ugly comments on Haejln's posts, those are by a whale. I do not agree with the way he communicates. Maybe if Haejln had changed his behaviour early on, then that whale would have never started being so rude. I hate seeing the greed of Haejln and the rudeness of that whale.
Thx for the comment