This is a very tough topic to talk about papa. Having had 4 pregnancies, (3 beautiful boys and one early miscarriage). I've also been in a position of hopelessness while making the very important decision to keep viable pregnancy #3 going as my world fell apart. Through it all, I've never judged a woman for her decision to keep or abort. We don't live in anyone's skin but our own. That being said, I used to call myself "the incubator" during my pregnancies because they were energy sucking little parasites. And after they were born, they were emotional, economical, and time parasites too -- but I personally wouldn't change a thing.
The language in what is and is not acceptable often shapes us with mob mentality, peer pressure, and a shame society - all of which I will push back on with everything I've got.
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Agreed, a touchy subject to be sure, and I am no woman, nor will I ever be.
Thanks for what you shared.
Time-burglars and need-machines!!! lol Thats what I think of 'em, despite loving my neices... and I KNOW most mothers hate the job sometimes, no matter how much they love their kids. The range of emotions is valid and good that women can talk about it and not play the self-sacrifice suffer in silence role any longer.
papa-pepper ever heard the parasite analogy before cuz he's not a woman, less probability of thinking/feeling that way or hearing it from someone :D
Speaking of feelings, I wonder if a pregnant womans feelings affect fetal development. IIRC it can effect epigenetic traits. Also, there was a study done on women who were denied abortions, their children had marked disadvantages; poverty being the obvious, and higher rates of illness among them. It is very hard for a woman to give up the child even if they are unwilling mothers. 'Just give them up for adoption' is more cruel and dismissive of the experience than implying a fetus is a parasite.