It does not matter what kind of person you are, what you dream about and where you are striving, the ultimate goal of each of us is happiness. But there is always something that distances us from this single dream, and this "something" - we ourselves, or rather, our limitations, which for years are lining up around, and how concrete walls fence us from a happy life.
Accidentally or specially, we limit ourselves every day to something, hide from life in some aspects of it, and if one day these barriers collapse, how amazing life will be. However, you can not wait for this day, and independently bring it closer. Just let go of some things, then you can break through the walls of your limitations and become happy.
- Approval of others
Who cares if he thinks about them? If you are happy with the decisions you make, this is the right choice, and no matter what others say. Think about how much you will get if you stop constantly looking back at other people, wondering if they like your decision or not. In addition, you and half the time do not guess what people really think about you, so is it worth trying?
Listen to advice - please, but do not let others decide how you live your life.
- Anger and resentment
Anger eats you from the inside, so learn to put up with those who infuriates you. This does not mean that you can let others use you to just avoid a scandal, you just have to learn how to deal with anger and resentment, with the pain that remains inside. Remember that the one who angered you, controls you.
Life becomes easier when you learn to accept an apology that you never received.
Some people relish their offense as an exquisite dish, and this does not lead to anything good. These feelings hurt not to whom you are offended or angry, but only you.
The image of an ideal body
How often are you guided by the tips from the beauty industry, the opinion of your relatives and friends? Your body is that little thing that really belongs to you, and to whom, if not you, decide how it should look? The only thing that matters is how you feel. Comfortable or not, the rest is decay.The image of an ideal partner
The ideal partner does not exist, do not even hope. Each of us has an ideal image or at least a set of exemplary qualities that a person must meet, but life usually spits on these lists and laughs at them.
What qualities should a partner have for you to be happy? For all people the same: you have to love him with all your heart, feel easy and comfortable next to him, and he also has to accept you as you are. If there are the first two points - excellent, you have found what you need. It remains to cultivate the last point in itself.
He is not perfect. You too, and you will never be perfect. But if he ever made you laugh, if he admits that he is a person and makes mistakes, be with him and give him everything you can. He is not going to read poetry, he does not think about you every moment, but he will give you a part of himself, although he knows that you can smash it. Do not evaluate. Do not hurt him, do not try to change him, and do not expect more from him than he can give. Smile when he makes you happy, scream when he pisses you off and miss him when he's not with you. Love is hard just because it is. Because ideal people do not exist, but there is one person who will be perfect for you.
Bob Marley
- An Ideal Life
Just as there is no ideal partner, there is no ideal life. Life is what you put in it, so if you are not ready to work hard and make efforts, then you choose to be unhappy. The choice you made directly affects how your life goes.
You can create your own world, the most beautiful of all worlds.
- You are going to become rich
Many people live their entire lives with the thought that they must become millionaires. Despite the fact that this is not bad, in fact, the goal, this requires a lot of work. In addition, you do not need to make money as an end in itself, you will not bathe in them, like Scrooge.
The main thing is to find a job that will become your passion and self-fulfilling, and then money will come (of course, if you do not dislike them).
The idea that Fortune will turn to you face
Do not wait for Ms. Luck to knock on your door, although this can happen at any time. Appreciate the life that you have and be grateful for what you have. Luck will never come if you wait for it.Excuses
There is no time for excuses. Forget what "there is no time", there is only "no desire." Excuses are just your attempt not to feel so shit when you once again do not do what you should have done long ago.Thoughts about the former
You broke up because of something, in any case there was a reason for this. Remembering your former people, think not about a person, but only about the lessons that life gave you, about what you got from this person. Do not stick to the feelings of a person who will never be with you - it will only destroy new relationships and make you suffer.Stubbornness
It is difficult to recognize that you are mistaken in something. It's just that other people had more knowledge or abilities to do something right. So stop being stubborn, just take it as a fact. The less you have stubbornness, the more you are open to something new. Think about how much you can experience and feel, if you try to understand and accept someone's opinion, except your own.Procrastination
Enough to save, it's time to sit out.
Stop putting off for tomorrow, live in today. If you constantly postpone a case, think about whether it should be done at all? Maybe you do not really need it at all? And if necessary, then do it now - the constant postponement for tomorrow provides you with only a sense of guilt and stress. Is it worth that to suffer?
- Baggage of memories
Do not drag the luggage of memories, especially about past relationships. If you strongly loved someone or thought that you loved, you subconsciously will compare, impose a projection on a new person who is not guilty of anything.
Creating new relationships, get rid of the old, and not only in life, but also in your head. And this is true not only for love, but for all relationships in general: with friends, co-workers, bosses, etc.
Negative
Everything that comes from your head in the form of thoughts and words, comes back in the form of reality. So change your life plan to "everything will be fine." There is nothing impossible for a person who believes in it.Do not Judge Anyone
Why is it so important to everyone what happens to others? So much time we spend discussing and judging other people, and they are us.
Since the world is a projection of our thoughts, we know for sure that everyone condemns us (because we ourselves do it). The vicious circle: you can not execute the advice number 1, that is, do not think that they will think about you, if you yourself do not stop judging other people.
Just remember: you were not in their shoes, and even if it seems that they were - no, they were not. Everyone has their own cockroaches in their heads, but in life - their circumstances (caused by cockroaches), so tie.
- Envy
Happiness is not in having what you want, but in wanting what you have.
Even social networks make people unhappy, because they look at their former classmates, classmates and acquaintances and green with envy, feeling like a nonentity.
When the next time you hit on envy, think about this: "Would I like to become a man who I envy?" Probably not, you love yourself (even if somewhere very deep).
You look at someone else's life, which you do not know, you do not even know what this person thinks. Maybe, at the moment when he dives into the pool of his private house, does he hate himself or is wildly afraid of something? Maybe you, walking in the woods on a sunny day, experience much more pleasure than he, basking in the snow-white sand in the Maldives?
In general, enough to look at others, if you feel good now - then everything is right, if not, then do so that it's good.
- Uncertainty
Happy people, as a rule, have a sense of self-worth. Just do not confuse it with a bloated ego. Happy people are happy with who they are, they radiate confidence, are not afraid to show their dignity.
There is no reason for uncertainty, not one. If you have features that you hate in yourself, there are two ways: accept them or change them. In any case, every person has everything at once: a debauchee, a puritan, a lying bastard and a right, free man. You choose what you should be, only you, not nature, it has nothing to do with it at all.
To depend on someone to be happy
No one, no one in this life will fill your void, if it is. No one will make you happy if you are unhappy. To share your happiness with someone else, you must first find this happiness, and then there will be someone else. So do not even hope that your happiness is in someone's hands, only you.The past
To live in the past means to bury your present. Errors were, okay, who did not have them? Arrange your memories with a lavish funeral, remember only the lessons, and live on.Total control
Sometimes you just have to relax and let life go the way it goes. You can not control EVERYTHING, and you have to put up with it. Otherwise, you will always be nervous, rave, and in the end you can not do anything. Simply, there are things that are beyond your control, which must be accepted as they are.
The main thing is balance. On the one hand, the log that floats downstream, on the other hand, is an idiot who is beating in a dead wall.
- Expectations
If you do not expect anything, you will never be disappointed.
Often we think that if we do this, then other people should do the same. That's bullshit. No one owes you anything, just as you do not owe anything. No one should be polite, considerate, accurate, honest, pleasant in communication, clean, in the end. And you, too, should not.
Nothing should be perfect, delicious, pleasant, unforgettable, but maybe. If it is - excellent, if not, you will not be upset. Be ready to receive everything that life sends you, and be happy.
